ugh. secrets. (vent/whine).

jennlin · September 2011

somebody i know told me that they are pregnant. this person doesn't want me to tell H. wtf? i understand that this person hasn't told his/her parents yet (we made a promise that i'd be the absolute first person to know), but still!!!! who is h going to tell? i'm pretty close with this person, and h is close only by association...he has nobody to tell...

/vent

uwhuskygirl · September 2011

karimychel · September 2011

I'd still tell my H.

jennlin · September 2011

karimychel:
I'd still tell my H.

you think so? i feel like it'd be disrespecting the pregnant party.....it's their pregnancy, their call. i just don't know how anyone could expect to *not* talk to their h about it.

when it was myyyyy pregnancy, and it was still a secret..any females i told, i told them it was free reign to talk to their h about it, as long as they knew their h could keep it a secret.

karimychel · September 2011

jennlin:
karimychel:
I'd still tell my H.
you think so? i feel like it'd be disrespecting the pregnant party.....it's their pregnancy, their call. i just don't know how anyone could expect to *not* talk to their h about it.
when it was myyyyy pregnancy, and it was still a secret..any females i told, i told them it was free reign to talk to their h about it, as long as they knew their h could keep it a secret.

I dunno - I guess I find it a silly request. If someone told me "I'm going to tell you something but you can't tell your H" I'd tell them I'd rather not know. I would also guess I'd tell my H that "oh they're not telling anyone right now so lets keep it low."

But you also said they were just acquaintances - what are the chances your H is going to run into this person and shout out congratulations?

jennlin · September 2011

karimychel:
But you also said they were just acquaintances - what are the chances your H is going to run into this person and shout out congratulations?

they wouldn't see each other w/o me. i just don't want to disrespect someones request, but i feel like h and i are a unit..and what i know, he should know. it's not like this person did something to be ashamed of...i'd understand if something embarrassing was requested to be secret......but i just feel like it's not fair that i can't talk about it *pout*.

karimychel · September 2011

jennlin:
karimychel:
But you also said they were just acquaintances - what are the chances your H is going to run into this person and shout out congratulations?
they wouldn't see each other w/o me. i just don't want to disrespect someones request, but i feel like h and i are a unit..and what i know, he should know. it's not like this person did something to be ashamed of...i'd understand if something embarrassing was requested to be secret......but i just feel like it's not fair that i can't talk about it *pout*.

Guess this goes to show I am a bad friend and put DH before others

sarack · September 2011

karimychel:
I'd still tell my H.

me too. i think when you tell me, you tell my H. H isn't gonna tell anyone. I only withhold info from H that I think will make him judge the person.. but otherwise, what is in my head can be in his.. sorry charlie! def tell h... who cares?

emyinpink · September 2011

ya, I think I'd also tell FI, oops.

jennlin · September 2011

so you guys would tell your h's even if the person specifically said not to?

mgoss228 · September 2011

karimychel:
jennlin:
karimychel:
But you also said they were just acquaintances - what are the chances your H is going to run into this person and shout out congratulations?
they wouldn't see each other w/o me. i just don't want to disrespect someones request, but i feel like h and i are a unit..and what i know, he should know. it's not like this person did something to be ashamed of...i'd understand if something embarrassing was requested to be secret......but i just feel like it's not fair that i can't talk about it *pout*.

Guess this goes to show I am a bad friend and put DH before others

This. Anything someone tells me is going to be repeated to DH. It's marriage law Wink If someone had a really gossipy DH, I could maybe see how more discretion would be necessary. But most guys will not go around repeating secrets, imo, especially if they are told to keep it hush-hush.

Johlise · September 2011

Lame... I could never tell a friend and expect her not to tell her H, I just tell them not to spread it around. If they want to tell their s/o then I expect them to be able to keep it quiet as well.

KST_ · September 2011

karimychel:
I'd still tell my H.

this. not on purpose but because I'm pretty much incapable of keeping stuff from him. I'd imagine it would slip out.

Ciaram22 · September 2011

karimychel:
I'd still tell my H.

This!

amandasw · September 2011

jennlin:
so you guys would tell your h's even if the person specifically said not to?

yes - granted I would probably say something like kari mentioned "I'd rather not know then" to 'warn' them. I wouldn't ask anyone to keep anything from their H.

jennuinne · September 2011

Yep, I'd tell him. H are exempt. Plus, he won't repeat it. But, I'd tell him, I promised not to tell, so don't repeat this! The only thing I can think that I wouldn't tell DH is something that was a surprise for DH...like a party or b-day present.