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XP: How do your DHs/SOs make friends?
I'm a newbie to the Seattle nest board, but was hoping you girlies could help me out (I also posted on MM, but would love a more local perspective).
FI was getting somewhat emotional the other night, and talking about how he doesn't have any friends right now who "match" him well (his best friend moved to Hong Kong just under a year ago, and his best friend from college lives in SF). I think it also really hit him when none of his friends will be going to his bachelor party (his groomsmen are all his brothers + my brother, and none of his friends can make it).
He's always been more introverted, and tends to make 1-2 really close friends. He has 2 guy friends right now, but one is really a home-body and tends to not go out ever, and the other tends to get a bit whiny 
. We moved to Seattle after school, so don't have anyone from college or who we grew up with.
He was also lamenting that we don't really have any good couple friends who are also DINKs. He really wants to find couples that we could get together, drink great bottles of wine with, and go out to nice dinners with (or have over for nice dinners). The couple friends we have tend to have at least one member of the couple still in school, or they're still in the "cheap college mentality." (We're 25 and 26).
His main interests are cooking and computers, and he also likes running, but was worried that meeting people through a running group would just be crazy runners who wouldn't also be up for drinking/eating.
How do your FIs/SOs make friends? And how do you meet couple friends with similar interests?
Re: XP: How do your DHs/SOs make friends?
I'm not an out of towner but I know that H and I both meet our friends through work and through work friends. I've been lucky that my bestfriends since junior high live in the same state and we are able to hang out, and also lucky that H gets along with their SOs.
I suggest just trying to go out and do stuff with work friends, tell them to invite other people and then just mingle. This has worked for us.
Also, if you guys have good friends, maybe they have other friends that you'd get along with.
I can see it being a problem with your H because he's introverted but sometimes meeting new people requires you to step out of your box and then pull them back in, if that makes sense, lol.
I'm sure you are both great people and you'll find friends! Maybe you can come to a GTG that we have and meet some of us, I think we're pretty cool!
I'll definitely have to come to a GTG
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And yea, totally makes sense!
Our only problem with work friends is that the computer science industry does tend to attract some weirdos, so it can be hard to meet normal folks. Most of the friends we have so far have been through work.
Although I just sent a dinner invite to a work acquaintance and his wife who we've met up with socially a few times.
We're in the same situation as you. We moved here for DH's job not knowing anyone. We really don't have any friends - we see a few of his coworkers socially but not many since he is management and walks a fine line.
DH and I have pretty much just fallen into a routine together and kind of forget about the outside world I suppose.
We should hang out
i wont be able to help u since most our friends are school-related. we do have some very good friends we met at work, but apparently that won't help you either!
h and i create "events" (river rafting, sporting events) where we invite our friends and throw out the invite to non weird coworkers. we've also become closer with coworkers that way.
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I think this is a fabulous idea!
*whispers* what's a DINK? drinks..um, no kids?
All of DH's friends are from college. He went to UW and most of his good friends stayed in the area. He feels like an outsider at his current job (they're all Kent blue collar hard & classic rock/metal and he's more white color indie rock) so hasn't made any friends there that he hangs out with. We have met some cool people who are friends of friends, but we're still working on those relationships.
Your H can find some non-crazy hardcore runners. My H used to play on a coed soccer team until both an injury and work schedule put an end to that. He grew apart from them since he's a little introverted, but that also was a good way to make some friends.
DINKS = dual income. no kids.
It's kinda offbeat, but Seattle has a Kickball team:
http://www.kickball.com/kickball#WA
A friend of mine is associated with WAKA, and has a great time with it (has traveled to Las Vegas with her team for nationals). If your FI is into sporty-stuff and drinking he might like it.
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I have a co-worker that uses the yahoo meet up groups and she said she's had a really good experience so far. (She uses it to meet other moms in her area)
Maybe have him use the running group just to try? If he hates it he never has to go back.
Here are a couple of ideas (in case they haven't been mentioned yet):
Take a couple's cooking class together - you'll be sure to meet other couples there!
Go to wine tasting events at local wineries (we have lots here!).
Encourage your DH to join a running club - I'm sure there are runners out there who eat/drink alcohol.
It is kind of hard to meet people here in Seattle, but I think if you put yourself out there and go to things that you're interested in, you're bound to meet others who share your interests and can go from there to form good friendships.
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