June 2008 Weddings
JusLyn678
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Promise rings
Have you ever been given a promise ring? Promise ring being a: pre-engagement ring.
What do you think of promise rings?
Re: Promise rings
I was given a promise ring about two years into our relationship (I think). We had been living together for about 5 months at that point.
I think the only reason I got a promise ring was because my BFF and her BF (who we lived with at the time) were "promised." Our neighbor and her BF (who we all went to college with) were "promised" also. I'm pretty sure DH felt the pressure at the point. Poor guy. The cute thing was that he made a build-a-bear that was holding a "gift." He put the promise ring in there and hung it on the door to our bedroom is our apartment. It was cute.
We got engaged a year later.
ETA: I still have the promise ring, but I have never done anything with it. It's teeny tiny.
Story time!
DH was married before me. Being the hussy that I am, I started dating him before the divorce was final. They were married and lived in Hawaii. When the separated, he moved home (MD). She moved back to her home (CA). They did the bicoastal parent thing until she agreed to move here to share custody of SD.
Literally days after our first date, ex came here to drop off SD to DH. She also decided she wanted to get back with him. He had to try things with her for his daughter. I totally understood and backed off completely. A few weeks later she went back and decided she did not really want to try again. DH and I began dating again immediately. Literally he called me to tell me she said nevermind I got in the car and we met at the bar).
A little over a year later, she decided to move here. When I heard the decision I told him she would want to get back with him. I knew he didn't want to be with her, but I also knew he wanted the best for his daughter. I was a little concerned about what would happen with us, but I tried not to let on. The night before she got here I was watching tv with DH and he comes up behind me with a ring. He tells me that he knows that this is going to be hard but that I am the one he wants to be with and when I get worried or frustrated to look at the ring to remind myself that no matter what, I am the one for him. It was actually better than the proposal!
Years later we were talking about promise rings and he said my ring was a promise ring. I explained a promise ring means you are "promising" to get married. He said yeah he knew. I laughed and told him the person getting the ring is supposed to know that;s what you mean when they get the ring.
Sorry for the novel
I have never been given one.
My little brother gave one to his girlfriend when they were about 19-20. I thought it was really cute. She is still in college and he was in an unsteady job at the time. Although they were both living at my father's house together, I thought it was sweet of him to give her that.
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LOL!
I have one from DH, and I actually still wear it (on my right hand). It's tiny, but I love it
DH gave me a promise ring one year into our relationship. He took me out to this amazing dinner in Philly and gave it to me then. We were only 17 and 18 (and just going into freshman year of college). Everyone in the restaurant thought he was proposing, which was embarrassing and ridiculous at the same time because we were so young! DH said he never even thought people would notice or mistake it for an engagement LOL.
I thought it was great, and wore it every day. About 6 months after that, DH proposed, unofficially (he was like, "will you marry me? Our parents would kill us if we got officially engaged now, but I just had to ask". SO cute). Of course I accepted (no ring was involved). 5 years after that we were engaged for real
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I know people make fun of promise rings, but I think they're cute and meaningful. I was not ashamed to wear mine, and still have it. I also still wear it on occasion! It means a lot to me
I've never gotten one, although I gave DH one.
That's right, I'm a progressive! I was going to law school and he was so worked up about the long-distance thing, even though it wasn't that long distance. As such, I gave him a ring with a garnet (my birthstone) and he wore it on a chain around his neck. I think he still has it somewhere.
Some of my friends got them in college, and roughly half of them did go on to get married. I remember one of my friends in particular dating another friends' ex...it was drama drama. They were planning to get married after their fist date or something else ridiculous. She got a promise ring after, like, a month. I never really believed they would stay together as he had done the same thing to our other friend, minus the ring. Shocker, they broke up.
DH gave me a ring for our one-year (dating) anniversary. I don't know that he or I ever referred to it as a "promise" ring, though that was the intention I believe. It's sweet but I wouldn't wear it now. It's a heart shape with diamonds all around it, similar to this but with a plain band:
Our crazy, wonderful life
My story still p!sses me off when I think about it. And here's the novel.
DH got me a small solitare for my birthday when we were dating for about 4 years (I think). I opened it, no special words were said other than thank you and your welcome. Then Monday comes along. My coworkers see it and ask if it's a promise ring. I tell them no, just a ring. We talk about how even if he didn't say it's a promise ring, you don't buy diamond rings for just any old body. I agree. We are committed, have talked marriage, but I know this is not a promise ring, nor am I concerned.
Later in the day DH calls me at work. He never calls work. He actually had the audacity to call and say, " Everyone at work is saying you think I got you a promise ring. I want to make sure you know it's not." I just responded with, I don't think it is. You would had said so, if it was.
Anyways. My feelings were hurt, obviously. DH isn't a jerk. This was the only time he has been so inconsiderate. I like to think that he wanted to clarify, because he would have done it differently if it was a promise??? Not because making a promise to me was repulsive...
We never did discuss it. The End.