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Now that we're a full year into our marriages
Do you call your in-laws mom and dad? Just curious - DH and I had a talk about this last night.
I want to - just for whatever reason I haven't actually been able to bring myself to say it out loud. I call them mom and dad in emails but that's about it. I don't know why I haven't said it yet - I think it's because I KNOW when I do, a big to-do will be made about it. Like if I say Mom - I know she'll give me like this super long hug and kisses and all that stuff. Which is fine, but I guess it's just that I don't want it to feel like a big deal if I do. I just want to be able to go about things normally and not have it be a 'thing'. You know?
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I don't call them mom and dad, although I always thought I would before I got married. The truth is they cause so much stress in my life that I don't feel that close to them. I love them because of what they do for me and DH, but I don't get that family vibe. Probably because their family is so different from mine. While my family is very open and talks to each other about every little thing, theirs is so closed off and it seems like they deal in secrets and can't talk about their feelings about anything.
In short, no I don't, and probably won't ever.
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This exactly. I am sure when little ones come along I will call them whatever grandparent names we/they choose. At one point in my life I thought I would want to call them mom and dad since I've known my IL's since I was 16, but given the nature of my relationship with my MIL and how drastically it has changed in the past 2 years.... yeah, no. At this point I don't ever envision myself calling them mom and dad. Not sure DH shares my opinion but he's super awkward about this kind of stuff so I'm sure he does it out of shyness.
Nope. I don't think they would even want me to. I'm not that close to my IL's and I'm pretty sure that MIL resents me because I've "stolen" her little boy. They don't really view me as a part of the family, so I don't see myself every calling them Mom and Dad.
I think DH would be weirded out by calling my parents Mom and Dad, though he gets along well with them.
I avoid it...!! So does my SIL. About a year ago my MIL said she wanted to make sure that we knew it was ok with her to call her anything we wanted. She had had this conversation with SIL the year before. We promptly changed the topic of conversation and are just waiting til we have kids
My siblings spouses all knew my parents from the time they were kids (14 or younger)... so of course they said Mr. & Mrs. Jones until they were married, and I sorta think they avoided it until my nieces & nephews were around, and then it was grandma & grandpa.
They wanted me to, I won't do it. DH calls my parents by their first names, and they were so formal with me even after we first got engaged that I just can't do it. I also think it would be disrespectful to my stepmother, who I call by her first name.
I agree that once there are kids in the picture that it won't be a probably to call them whatever names they choose.
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My ILs sign cards to us mom and dad but I don't call her mom and dad. I call them by their first names. DH calls my mom by her first name. My parents called their inlaws by their names or grandma/grandpa so that is what I do.
Wow - I guess I'm in the minority! DH has no problems calling my parents mom and dad and actually both my parents called their in-laws mom & dad so it's not a weird concept to me at all. I'm sure once kids come along that will change things up a little too.
It's interesting to hear that none of you guys call your in-laws mom and dad...I would have guessed at least a few would!