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Flameable Pregnancy Vent
I am sorry BUT in todays world how does one get pregnant (okay I know how, but you get what I mean) when they don't want to????
Come on, be smart.
I'm not just talking teen pregnancy, just "oops" babies in general. There is no excuse. (This rant stirs from a 20-something year old family member of mine who should have known better IMHO.)
Come on, be smart.
I'm not just talking teen pregnancy, just "oops" babies in general. There is no excuse. (This rant stirs from a 20-something year old family member of mine who should have known better IMHO.)
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Re: Flameable Pregnancy Vent
I know this is so flammable, but I totally agree with you. Between the shot, the patch, the pill, the diaphragm, the foam, male condoms, female condoms, IUDs, those implantable arm things, and then the morning after pill if all of that failed? I don't get it. If those people REALLY REALLY didn't want to get pregnant, they wouldn't.
*This rant does not include pill babies when the pill was actually taken at the right time every day.
HEY. What if you just don't think condoms work and one swims up the side lol.
My test I just took was negative for the record, but you never know!
I 100% agree and it drives me nuts too. I know pulling out isn't 100%, but come on people. At the very minimum, PULL OUT!
I think an oops baby is different than an unplanned baby. "Oops I'm an idiot" vs "I used a condom/pill etc and and god blessed me with an unplanned baby."
Landon was planned, but just sayin'... some people can't take pills/patches/etc. I can't use hormonal bc. BUT, DH and I didn't have a baby for 5 years because we timed, pulled out, AND used condoms.
I agree with you.
As a teacher, I also see that lots of people are just misinformed or uneducation about how babies are made. I teach adults at Univ of Phoenix and Brenau Univ... the science/health classes I teach cover reproductive health, and most of them don't know or understand that you can only get pregnant around ovulation days.
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This might be flameable, but I hate when people say they weren't trying to get pregnant even though they weren't using any type of BC. And then they call the pregnancy a surprise.
To me, not using any kind of BC and knowing full well that you could get pregnant is called TTC.
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Technically, yes. I agree. But when I think of TRYING, I think of charting, knowing exactly when you O, and DTD those days.
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This. We weren't "trying" but we weren't on BC (can't use hormonal) and DH did pull out. That being said, we were well aware that it could happen and were totally fine with it. But, if you had asked if we were "trying" I would have said hell no.
So, I disagree.
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I have seen this turn into huge angry arguments on national boards. I see the difference as not TTA and TTC, but I definitely can see how someone would feel like if you aren't TTA then you are TTC.
When we pulled the goalie we were not trying to conceive immediately, but we were very aware that we very easily could and we were ready for that possibility. A few months later we started actively trying (charting, timing, etc).
This is H's biggest pet peeve. Medically, if you aren't preventing, you're "trying" and he has patients all the time like 'well, we're not trying, trying".
I get the nuance that you may not be putting a lot of effort into it ("trying") but I agree with rockymountain on this.
Same here Tiff. We called it, if it happens it happens, not trying. When I think of trying I see charts and temps and prenatals.
Yeah, I'm with you on this one. I totally agree that it's ridiculous for someone to be shocked when they end up pregnant after not using any birth control, but I do think that's different than "trying."
I've been off bc for the last month because my prescription ran out and couldn't get an appointment with my doctor until next week (and they wouldn't refill until I have my physical), but we're definitely not TTC. We haven't used condoms, but we've been careful about timing and using the always reliable "pull and pray" method
to avoid until I can get back on my bc. That said, if I ended up pregnant, I wouldn't be shocked because we're well aware that it's possible, but we're still being somewhat careful and hoping it doesn't happen.