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Our tech team has launched updates to The Nest today. As a result of these updates, members of the Nest Community will need to change their password in order to continue participating in the community. In addition, The Nest community member's avatars will be replaced with generic default avatars. If you wish to revert to your original avatar, you will need to re-upload it via The Nest.
If you have questions about this, please email help@theknot.com.
Thank you.
Note: This only affects The Nest's community members and will not affect members on The Bump or The Knot.
S/o: what do you NOT miss about being single?
We just talked about certain things we miss from our single days. What do you not miss? I don't miss dating at all. It was occasionally exciting but mostly I found it very stressful. I also really don't miss going to parties and events alone, for the most part. I like always having a "date" to go with 
Re: S/o: what do you NOT miss about being single?
I don't miss the uncertainty of it--the wondering if a fight is going to end in a break up, having your family and friends all wondering if this guy is 'the one', etc.
Obviously I realize divorce is a real and common thing--not trying to sound naive--but the feeling that I've got a partner to go through life with, to share in my adventures, feels far greater now.
I don't miss not having a reliable partner in crime. I had some good friends but there was never really that one person I could rely on all the time. Depended on what the activity was, if they had time, if they had money, if they wanted to do something I couldn't afford, if nothing better came up, who else was coming along, etc. In one regard it was good to have different friends for different things, but in another regard it was frustrating and occasionally lonely not having a reliable partner.
Part of the problem was that a lot of people in the area were there temporarily or, like me, reached points where they had to make major changes that usually involved moving. Who was available was constantly in flux.
Thankfully this husband of mine is either game for whatever I want to do, or enables my doing whatever he doesn't want to do. Like he takes me travelling, something we both love. But he won't get a pedicure with me yet watches BabyD while I get mine.
And goodness, but I don't miss dating. I had some really fun dates, met some really fun guys, but overall I don't miss it. There was more stress, awkwardness, frustration, disappointment, and "oh, you won't put out?" than anything. Felt like I was constantly looked at or looked over but not acutally seen. If that makes sense.
I hated dating, I didn't like first kisses, I didn't like the first time I had sex, I didn't like not knowing where a relationship stood. Are we together, are we just "dating", are we seeing other people?
I was also pretty sure I was going to be the cat lady and I hate cats. All my friends were with people long term and I was single. I do think this allowed me to move internationally twice, I think I would have been held back by a guy. So I guess it worked out in the end.
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Totally agree. The dating world sucked. I do NOT miss that at all.
I don't miss being alone all the time. I don't miss cooking meals for one, and eating leftovers all week (I hate leftovers). I don't miss going to movies by myself, or eating at restaraunts by myself.
Kind of everything.
H & I got together at 19 years old so my single years were also my teenage years, with all the lack of confidence that it involves.