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F/U to AF
AF showed up early this morning. I can't even say I'm bummed about it anymore...just numb. God hasn't failed me yet, but I'm really beginning to wonder if being a Mother is what He has in store for me. I can't be presumptuous and assume that, just because I'm a woman, that it's what I'm meant to do in this life. I told DH last night that I'm done trying. My heart has been let down too much by the whole watching factor and tracking and vitamins...if it's not what's intended by God then I'm not going to push it, and if it is then He'll let it be done. I'll just work hard at being the best Auntie I can be. 
love, jenifriend
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Re: F/U to AF
Let me tell you I have had this exact conversation with myself (and Jeff) so many times it is uncountable. I had a laugh with my mom the other day and told her that she must have skipped something in the "Birds & The Bees" talk with me because I must not be doing something right. I guess I am just thinking that I am supposed to enjoy this time while it is just Jeff and I, because many married couples don't get to do that. Just keep your head up and keep trying. I, too, have given up on the extra steps as they aren't adding anything into it. Just keeping doinking it out during the month, and hopefully God graces you with a bundle of joy of your own.
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Jeni..I'm so sorry! ::hugs::
I wish there was something I could say but not being in "your boat" I really don't have any words
Just know that I'm praying for you!
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I think that's the most difficult part for me to wrap my mind around, Danie. Religiously, I won't do AI or IVF - it's a completely personal choice and I have a huge respect for those who choose to do it - but it goes against everything I believe. If it doesn't come naturally, then it's not meant for me - that's what I believe. Jeff and I have talked about adoption; perhaps one day down the road that will be the opportunity that's presented to us and we'll be blessed with a child we can care for. I love you and appreciate so much that you continue to reach out to me with love and care; Lord knows I've needed it along this journey!
There were a lot of tears for me last night as this realization came to me; I felt so bad for Jeff because he just didn't know what to do to comfort me. He's been such a champ.
Sorry for the Monday let down ladies...hope y'all can forgive me!
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Ladies, please please please do not give up hope. I've been in your boat and I know how much it sux. When the time is right (and you least expect it) things will work out.
Here's what DH and I did (please take it with a grain of salt)...We were trying for about a year and then decided to take the summer off to wait for my insurance to start. During those few months when we were on break, I was thankful to see AF, it meant we had another month to prepare. I had to go to my Dr in June for a follow-up pap and talked to him about it. He told me when we were ready to start again, to come back and talk and he would help us out. He also told me it takes many people up to a year to get pg. Well, as it turns out, it did take us a year to get pg, and the next time I see him will be for a prenatal visit.
You are not alone on this journey. Please know that you have tons of support here from everyone. Take this time to do things with your DH and enjoy life. Try not to focus on TTC (easier said than done I know) so much and things will work out.
::HUGE HUGS::
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Don't feel bad at all for sharing your feelings, sticking to your own personal beliefs, and feeling sad about the situation. Like I said, I do know where you are coming from, and people cannot begin to comprehend how hard it is. There are times that I just want to hide from everyone that knows what is going on so that I don't have to have another question about it.
Jeff and I actually got into it pretty bad Friday night because he just doesn't express himself correctly. He said, "You act like we have to have a baby today." I felt as if I had been going through this by myself for a year without knowing it. He explained later that he just meant that he isn't letting himself get stressed out about it at all because he knows there is still plenty of time. He is right, but with my endometriosis I necessarily don't have all the time in the world. I feel like we are going to be five years down the road then he will finally get to the place I am emotionally right now. I don't want to wait that long. I want to be able to have my children with a four year gap between them, if possible, and not start that process when I am 30 or later. I just know that we are going to do at least AI, and I want to get the show on the road, but he isn't ready for that yet, which is so hard for me to understand. Oh he also said, "So, if you think we have sex every single day for a month we really won't get pregnant?"...so if you think that will work why aren't you jumping me every single morning???? GAH! Men just put in the minimum amount of effort for as long as they can!
Sorry, I hijacked your post, but I am right there with you right now!
I agree with this 100%. I don't think you should lose hope AT ALL. I think maybe this is a way to step back and let nature do its thang. I have to be honest, before reading about all this with you girls, I had no idea what charting and OPKs and all this fancy language was. I think sometimes we get too hung up on the science behind it and how to create the perfect opportunity to be pg. I think one of the wonderful things about being pregnant is the surprise it gives you!
I think you just need to let God do his job, don't worry about all the fanciness behind getting pregnant. Have fun with your hubby and if it's meant to be, it's meant to be. I think some couples stress out about getting pregnant and then when you least expect it, BAM, pregnant!
We are here for you Jeni
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Jeni,
I'm right there with you. This TTC stuff really stinks. Each time I get worked up I try to remind myself of Psalm 46:10 (I think) "Be still and know that I am God." However, that doesn't mean that I don't still get frustrated & need to vent to Nelson or to you all. If you want to talk feel free to inbox me on facebook.
Well said, I couldn't agree more.
my thoughts exactly! thoughts and prayers for you Jeni girl!
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Sending you a huge virtual hug!!! And know that it's okay to be frustrated and upset, don't beat yourself up over it. I'm glad you are finding strength and patience in God!
Also, just a reminder that you should not give up: It took my mom 3 years to get pregnant with me - she also only wanted to go the natural route. But she says she wouldn't change that in a heartbeat because she cherished those three years of marriage before she and my dad began the next journey in life as parents.
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