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Seriously? (Somewhat BR)

I just got an invite to a baby shower for one of my sister's friends who lives in NY, near our mom. I knew her well when we were younger but we haven't seen much of each other since I went to college. Ordinarily I would probably send a gift, but this is her FOURTH child.

I feel as though I can hear Emily Post rolling in her grave. 

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Re: Seriously? (Somewhat BR)

  • Yikes! A friend of mine is pregnant with her third, a girl, and her last child was a girl (and is only 2.) She put her registry up today but at least qualified that she had people ask her to create one. Still, I'm not sure what else she could possibly need.
  • I guess soemtimes different babies need different things? And maybe she's not the one throwing the shower...at least I would hope not. I know that my MIL will try to throw me a shower for every kid, so maybe that's the case with her? Just playing devils advocate here.
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  • IDK. Her first is 10, but the last 3 are 3u3 and the two she already has are different genders, so I can't imagine what she could possibly need. Plus, her sister is throwing this one and she also threw the last two. (My sister threw the first).
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  • Yeah totally sounds like a gift grab. Bleh.

    imagemrsredrox:
    I guess soemtimes different babies need different things? And maybe she's not the one throwing the shower...at least I would hope not. I know that my MIL will try to throw me a shower for every kid, so maybe that's the case with her? Just playing devils advocate here.

    Babies are babies. They all need the same basic things. They only thing I can see a baby needing different is clothing (if she's having a different sex).

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  • Definitely a gift grab.  I even side-eye diaper parties for subsequent children but I'm a jerk.
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  • But I do know that some families want to throw a shower for each baby. If it were me I'd politely decline or ask that guests not bring gifts but I understand everyone is different.

    I swear if one of my friends ever has 4 children and I get an invite for 4 showers my eyes will roll out of my head.

     

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    Definitely a gift grab.  I even side-eye diaper parties for subsequent children but I'm a jerk.

    Haha

    Yes

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  • imageSgt M's Wife:
    Definitely a gift grab.  I even side-eye diaper parties for subsequent children but I'm a jerk.

     I agree! I am totally like this!  I got an invite for a girl that is having her fourth girl...Really what else could she possibly need???

  • I could see if, like, you had a couple kids in your early-mid 20s, then maybe you get pregnant in your mid-late 30s and you've gotten rid of all your baby stuff (plus probably have a new set of friends now). I'd go to that shower and bring a gift. But this, no way.
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  • I guess it just depends on the family culture. I know people who have had baby showers for every one of their kids, and I know those that have had them only once. It is kind of up to the family system that you are a part of.

    It just doesn't bother me that much. It's not like at this stage in the game she is picking out all brand new furniture for the little one. (Unless she is, then I would feel differently.)

     

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