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Air Force wife in training
I'm soon to be married in December and I have not one clue as to what to do when I get to Florida. I'm young but capable scared that I will do something terribly wrong or not folow the right rule at the right time. My fiances G-ma has me kinda nervous. Can anyone help me on this matter?
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Some basics, I guess:
1. When you hear a song (Taps, National Anthem) playing on base, stop what you're doing. If you're driving, you'll notice others stop. If you're walking, stop and show your respect. Get off the phone.
2. While we're at it, no driving and talking/texting on your phone. This really is just a good rule of thumb for life, but it's the law on every base I've been on.
3. Don't grab your husband's azz in public if he's in uniform. Again, this is probably frowned upon when he's not in uniform, too. Be respectful of the uniform and the job that he's doing as far as public displays of affection go.
4. Don't be me and accidentally "shoot" your water bottle into a trash can and end up hitting the Flight Chief in your husband's shop after being married for one day. He'll laugh, but you'll be super embarrassed.
Look, you'll be fine. I'm not sure what "rules" your fiance's grandmother thinks there are, but the days of going to tea and leaving a calling card are over. Just be yourself, and if you have an ounce of common sense you'll be fine.
generally just dont be an idiot and you'll probably be ok. Dont do something to make your H look bad, but in general anything that falls under that category are things you should be avioding in life anyway.
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Along the lines of military sponsored parties and events...dress appropriately. Your prom dress in all it's glittered glory isn't appropriate and neither are skirts and dresses that barely make it past your lady bits.
Really though just use common sense and when in doubt err on the conservative side.
Also get involved with the family group. They're usually run by more experienced spouses and they're a great source of information and support.
Thank you I totally forgot to add stupid work phone.
PS- The lady bits just made me spit diet coke all over my computer screen with laughter.
All of this. Also, make wherever you get stationed feel as home-y as possible. Unpack everything, hang pictures, etc, even if you think you'll only be there a short while. Make lots of friends on base and try to make some local non-military friends as well. Your military friends will be invaluable because they know what you're dealing with, but your local friends can tell you things about the town/area that most military people might not know because they haven't been there terribly long. Plus, it's nice to have friends that will still be there if you go back and visit
Hey there! I'm a new AF wife as well.
OP, I know this may seem like a no brainer but be careful what you repeat.
H and I attended an event for officers, it was Roaring 20's Casino night. I was playing black jack, one of the women at the table had a very loose tongue and another didn't waste any time gossiping and talking about Squad members that were not there. They had no idea the new base commander was sitting in between us. We are brand new here and even I knew it was the new commander. Now I don't know if anything was done about it but they def. made a bad impression on my H and I.
Usually I'm the talker, but I have spent the majority of this month just listening to what people have to say.
HTH! GL
Heh. There was a night when I was out with some people, H was deployed. This one girl got drunk and started ranting. She was fresh out of the Academy and started whining about how b/c of that, she deserved more.
This was said in mixed company of officers, most of whom were not academy, so, yeah, not a smart political move. Sitting near us was the DO, but he wasn't part of our group. I don't even think she knew he was there.
So I do my good wifely duty and take this drunk young naive girl outside to get her to rant/cool down in a less overheard environment. Then she started going on about how she deserved the job H was in, nevermind that H was a good 4 or 5 years senior to her, and, oh, the wife is probably the wrong person to share that with.
Good times!
As far as the other spouse stuff, I think the thing that still gets me is knowing if I'm supposed to stand, too. I'm often the only spouse/civilian around, so I'm not all clued into the hyperawareness when someone of higher rank enters, and then people will stand up around me. And in reflex, I do, too, but I'm never sure if I'm supposed to. It makes me really feel awkward when someone stands up for me, just b/c H outranks them. Um, I'm not H, sit your ass down!