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How "open" is your door?
Is yours the type of house where people feel free to drop by unannounced?
Does the thought of houseguests give you hives?
Where in the spectrum do you fall?
"You can make more friends in two months by becoming interested in other people than you can in two years by trying to get other people interested in you." - Dale Carnegie
Re: How "open" is your door?
I'm not a huge fan of people stopping by unannounced on a regular basis, but every now and then it's no big deal. I love house guests for a long weekend. After that, I enjoy the thought of having my quiet, clean, house back.
Closed and deadbolted.
ETA: I loathe unannounced stop-ins, but I love inviting people over and hosting when it's planned.
I used to be off the charts in the hives direction. The first bookclub I hosted pretty much made me a crazy person. I have gotten a LOT better, but I still would need at LEAST 24h before company.
I NEVER had ppl in my house when I was growing up. My parents didn't have friends, and my mom preferred that I go to other kids' houses rather than them coming over. I think I had like 2 sleepovers at my house my whole life, and probably had friends over a total of 5 times.
Not at all. I despise when people come over unannounced or even knock on our door at all. The dogs go crazy and we have to herd them into a separate room before we open the door which is a fuuking headache after they've already heard the doorbell or a knock. Friends know to call/text beforehand usually, but solicitors make me crazy. No I don't want to buy your kid's fundraiser crap. Get off my lawn.
If I know people are coming over, NBD. Even with a few minutes notice, I can pick up enough to make the house presentable. I love having people over in general. Just for dinner though, not overnight... that interrupts my TV schedule.
I totally agree with this.
I now get annoyed when the neighborhood kids stop by and want to play with the dogs unannounced. I think it annoys me more b/c it is usually when I am nursing Wyatt or have just gotten him down for a nap and they ring the bell which gets the dogs barking and half of the time wakes him up. That does not make me a happy camper.
When we lived in our first home (a townhouse in Tallahasse,) the neighbors Lab would run up to our door and look into our side light for Brodie. She would even scratch at the door for him. It was cute at first....but quickly got old. We would be making dinner or watching TV and have him all settled down, but then he'd see her and whine and go crazy at the door. Then her owner would come over and kock and ask if he could come out and play. No! Every now and then, fine. But stop letting your dog run around loose and run up to our house every single time she goes out for an unannounced play date.
Absolutely not. Even my grandparents, who are notorious for drop-bys to everyone else, know to call me. Nobody is welcome to stop by. Period. Not even neighbors. It annoys me. That said, I am generally pretty nice to Jehovah's Witnesses, since they're usually just young boys trying to do the right thing by their religion. Anyone else gets the, "um, yes?" or I just hide.
Houseguests it depends on their level of maintenance. My brother/his sister is welcome to stay any time because they take care of themselves and are very quiet and helpful. MIL is great the first day or so and then starts growing in her level of maintenance required. Everyone else gives me a migraine. Plus the guest room and bath are now directly next to the nursery (it's a jack and jill bath) so I don't trust anyone to be quiet enough not to wake him repeatedly. My guess is we won't be having houseguests for a long time until he isn't easily awoken by a flushing toilet.
I wonder if it is a Tallahassee thing to think it is acceptable for kids & dogs to have unannounced play dates?
I think we are going to have to have a rule that if the dogs are outside, you can come over to play but if they aren't in the yard then no coming over to knock/ring the door bell to see if they can come out.
How is it that my BABY is going to be 3?
BFP-2/25/11; 8 Wk U/S-3/25/11-No HB, measured 6.5 wks; D&C
I HATE when people come over unannounced. Our next door neighbor does this sometimes. I get really annoyed if anyone knocks on our door that we're not expecting. And if it's a solicitor, I won't even open the door.
I enjoy having people over for dinner, game night, etc, as long as it's planned. My mom is about the only person who can call and say she's close by and ask to stop by and I'll usually tell her yes.
I'm not a big fan of overnight guests, just because I feel like I can't do what I want to do- wear my pj's all evening with no bra, watch what I want on tv, etc.
I don't know what my dysfunction is. It's not that the house is such a stye that I'd be mortified. It's usually a bit messy, but not to the extent that I'd really care. I honestly don't know what it is -- I just get super anxious. Like, just reading the WWYD post actually caused a blood pressure spike.
Well it's no newsflash that I'm a social retard. But I'm usually only anxious socially if I'm going to be alone in a big group of ppl I don't know. For some reason, though, if it's my house, anyone but my family = super anxiety.
I was 2 seconds away from stopping by your house when I ran down to IL's the other day. However, I would have texted you first from Starbucks. I thought you might want to see vw, but now I'm glad I didn't - lol!