If you don't like sex...

Re: If you don't like sex...

• LilBlkdrss

  August 2011

  Pretty sure I've only heard about women not liking it because they either have a physical problem (that can usually be fixed) or they're doing or not doing something that can also usually be fixed (something as simple as adding lube).  Usually there are ways for these women to make it feel good so why on earth would they not want to figure that out?

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• ~NB~ member

  

  August 2011

  I agree, reading these posts is really sad because most are about:

  a) not enjoying sex, or

  b) not knowing anything about sexual health or functions.

  It's supposed to be an urgent DRIVE, and a highly pleasurable experience.

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• sklopfer

  September 2011

  I don't enjoy sex, but I do it because my husband wants sex. He never pressures me into it, but he's a guy. He just doesn't fit right, and its just not comfortable. There are other things I don't like doing, like doing dishes and going to work, but I do it anyways. 

  

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• CiGiDancer member

  September 2011

  sklopfer:

  I don't enjoy sex, but I do it because my husband wants sex. He never pressures me into it, but he's a guy. He just doesn't fit right, and its just not comfortable. There are other things I don't like doing, like doing dishes and going to work, but I do it anyways. 

   

  I don't want to sound like I am picking on you, because I am not but I have to say something...  You "don't enjoy sex", and "he just doesn't fit right".  I am saddened to read this.  Doing the dishes cannot bring you to orgasm (but it would be awesome if it could) so comparing the two is rather unfair.

   

  You could enjoy sex!  Have you ever orgasmed?  Does he perform oral sex on you?  Do you have any hangups with sex that are causing you not to be interested?  You don't have to answer me only question yourself.

   

  Like I said before, you could and should enjoy sex! 

  
  I have seen the moment of my greatness flicker

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• artbyallie member

  

  September 2011

  CiGiDancer:

  sklopfer:

  I don't enjoy sex, but I do it because my husband wants sex. He never pressures me into it, but he's a guy. He just doesn't fit right, and its just not comfortable. There are other things I don't like doing, like doing dishes and going to work, but I do it anyways. 

   

  I don't want to sound like I am picking on you, because I am not but I have to say something...  You "don't enjoy sex", and "he just doesn't fit right".  I am saddened to read this.  Doing the dishes cannot bring you to orgasm (but it would be awesome if it could) so comparing the two is rather unfair.

   

  You could enjoy sex!  Have you ever orgasmed?  Does he perform oral sex on you?  Do you have any hangups with sex that are causing you not to be interested?  You don't have to answer me only question yourself.

   

  Like I said before, you could and should enjoy sex! 

  I agree 100%. And really, vaginas are designed to be pretty much one-size-fits-all. I mean, we can push babies out of them. No penis is going to be big enough to be a problem if the woman is properly prepared.

  Does he do anything at all you like during sex? If he's just ramming it in there, of course it's going to be uncomfortable. You're not likely to be relaxed and lubricated if he just asks for it and you lie down and spread your legs without either of you doing anything to turn you on. 

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• artbyallie member

  

  September 2011

  I also thought of another question. Does your husband know you don't enjoy sex or do you pretend to? Because if my H saw that I was uncomfortable during sex, he would stop (and feel bad about it and probably lose his boner).

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• lookame3639 member

  

  September 2011

  I don't enjoy sex...currently. The past 2 years have been really hard on me physcially. I used to have a pretty high sex drive but right now sex has lost it's luster. I have an autoimmune disease which showed symptoms two years ago. My immune systems dropped an began attacking my organs instead(thanks white cells you might be bored but there are still better things to do than attack me) Anyway I got diagnosed Aug 2010 after being hospitalized, given a blood transfusion and other tests. After my diagnosis I was put on drugs to control my disease...first was steriods, then chemo(it's a low dose that is more immunosuppressing than actual chemo). Well now my condition seems somewhat under control but now my immune system is suppressed allowing yeast to take control of my vag(my yeast is throwing a party every month how sucky is that?) All in all my body has failed me these past years. There hasn't been much I could do about it and sex fell to the wayside because I was dealing with several other issues. I've taken steps to make sex enjoyable but sometimes theres only so much you can do when you body is elsewise failing you

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• sevatipari

  September 2011

  I know how you feel.  I suffer from constant migraines and neck and back pain (with the feeling that my leg and arm muscles are 2 inches 2 short and they constantly ache) that the Docs have yet to diagnose.  Though they're doing what they can to figure out whats wrong and get the right combo of pills to manage the pain.  My pain levels so high that the jolting of sex makes everything worse.  It also doesn't help that my ex was sexually, physically and emotionally abusive.  DH and therapy has helped me deal with a lot of the issues but I still have to force myself to have sex.  I have no desire for it at all.  Once I get into that headspace I can get rev'd up and enjoy it its the getting into the headspace thats the issue for DH and I.  I think once they figure out what's wrong with me and get the right combo of pills it might make it easier cause I psych myself out thinking how much its going to hurt afterward and before the orgasm.  Same with cleaning house or getting up to go to work but I force myself to do that too.  I refuse to let whatevers wrong with me rule my life...I rule it not the other way around.  Honestly the only time I'm not in pain is during orgasm or the few minutes following before the endorphins fade or right after a massage (DH gives the best massages) and right after yoga for about an hour...then I can literally feel the muscles tensing back up.  If they could bottle the feeling of orgasm and make a pill I'd be in heaven.

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• sklopfer

  September 2011

  artbyallie:

  I also thought of another question. Does your husband know you don't enjoy sex or do you pretend to? Because if my H saw that I was uncomfortable during sex, he would stop (and feel bad about it and probably lose his boner).

  Right now it's not an issue. He's in afghanistan, lol. He tells me how much he misses me and sex, but I'm totally enjoying the break.  

  He knows its uncomfortable and he does try to make it enjoyable. I just don't like it. And if we have to use vibrators and lube and all those toys and gadgets, I just lose interest. 

  

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• artbyallie member

  

  September 2011

  sklopfer:

  artbyallie:

  I also thought of another question. Does your husband know you don't enjoy sex or do you pretend to? Because if my H saw that I was uncomfortable during sex, he would stop (and feel bad about it and probably lose his boner).

  Right now it's not an issue. He's in afghanistan, lol. He tells me how much he misses me and sex, but I'm totally enjoying the break.  

  He knows its uncomfortable and he does try to make it enjoyable. I just don't like it. And if we have to use vibrators and lube and all those toys and gadgets, I just lose interest. 

  Do you masturbate at all? Enjoy receiving oral?

  (sorry if I'm too nosy) 

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