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WWYD: Can I let him drop-out?
As you're probably aware, not many organizations take kids under the age of 3 for any organized sports.
An acquaintance of mine owns a gym in CB and announced this summer they were going to do a fall soccer league for kids ages 2-5, so I signed Jack up. (He will be 3 in October.)
First and second practices didn't go so well. 1st game didn't, either. 2nd game, he refused to even get on the field. Last night, out of the blue, he asked, "Mom, do you PWOMISE to neva take me to socca evah, evah again?" 
Admittedly, he's a pretty shy kid who takes a while to open up. But, he also doesn't like the whole "yelling" aspect of the game, like the coach saying loudly, "Jack, Jack - kick the ball! Jack, this way!" etc. People raising their voice in any form makes him withdraw.
I am fairly confident he's not going to play any more games - at least not willingly. I also hate to let him "drop out," but this whole soccer thing wasn't his idea (it was mine) and I'm not sure, at 2-3, he will even realize what "dropping out" means, you know?
So, I guess this is really a WWAND question. . .
Re: WWYD: Can I let him drop-out?
I would take him out. Only because like you said, it was your idea and not his. I have signed DD up for dance, and I told myself that if she didn't enjoy it, then I would let her make that decision.
I think it is different when the child chooses to do a sport, and then decides they want to drop out.
I would consider dropping him out of it just because he is sooo young. I started soccer when I was in kindergarten and cried because I hated it. In 1st grade my mom didn't sign me up for fall (we had it in fall and spring) and I cried because I missed it. Started playing again in spring and played through high school.
I think with him being so young and maybe not having friends on the team will make a difference. I would pull him from it and maybe in a couple years revisit the idea. I know soccer isn't for everyone but I really hope my future kids want to play like I did.
thanks to jennied
Ditto.
I bet you died a little inside when he said that to you.. gah!
Def. take him out, especially if the yelling and stuff bothers him and he made you PWOMISE not to take him back.
I'm coaching N's kindergarten soccer team and I have a little girl on my team who I know has no interest at all in being there....her dad yells at her to get out there and play, but she'd rather stand next to me and hold my hand the whole time. I feel bad for her and I just want to tell her dad to take her home. LOL! Everytime I put her in she just stands there and trys to talk to me and I feel horrible ignoring her. LOL!
love is for every her, love is for every him, love is for everyone
OK, whew! I just don't want to be "that mom," you know; the one who is all, "Oh, honey, you don't like it? Well, you don't have to do anything you don't want to." I'm glad to see I'm (hopefully) not.
Amy - You have no idea! I am no longer the tough broad I used to be; this pregnancy has broken me dooooooooown and I cry at every single freakin' thing. It's a good thing we were in the car when he asked me so he couldn't see the tears - LOL!
Ha! Actually, I think my yelling is the only one that doesn't bother him a bit!
I like the idea of still taking him to watch/cheer on his team and really, he doesn't seem to mind to watch, as long as he doesn't have to play.
Thanks, everyone!
This! Then next year sign him up in Tabor and he can play with his friend Cooper. It helped us last spring that Katy's big Cooper was on our team and was like a big brother to my Cooper. (confusing much with so many Cooper's?)
The girls are dropping out of dance this year. They are five and with everything that is going on (some drama with their father, his girlfriend and her daughter...who shares a name with my Lily, as well as starting Kindergarten and all the changes with that), they just DO NOT want to do it.
It wasn't fun for me to try and make them go to dance, beg them to go in the classroom, watch them cry and try to grab me as I walked out. It was just too much.
I don't want to be "that mom" either, but they just really weren't having it.
I think you're doing the right thing.
Dude - if he doesn't like it then don't do it. We do those things for FUN! If it's not fun then it's a simple answer. He doesn't like it, he's not going.
Kids know just what to say to go straight to the jugular don't they?
Agreed with everyone. I am with you, there is definitely value in learning to "stick with it" and do things we don't always want to do. But he's too little to learn that lesson. He just hates it & as Nancy said, if it's no fun then it doesn't make sense.
I think going along to watch (if he wants to) is a great idea. Maybe he would enjoy it more another year if he can warm up to it on the sidelines.
poor dude, that PWOMISE bit is for sure a heartbreaker!!