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Who wants to be my counselor?
H is currently on my last nerve. He's been off work since this past Wednesday, so I know it's probably just that we've had too much time together. The first couple of days were alright, but after that I wanted him to get out of my house. He started interfering with my routine.
He's back at work today and I'm still annoyed. I got my hair done this morning, met a friend for lunch, picked up B and came home. I decided to get on the nest since I hadn't done so in a few days, and all of my applications on my computer were open.
H went through my computer while I was gone this morning. Why? I'm not sure. My behavior hasn't been suspicious, my phone is always available and never hidden, and I have been with him for the past WEEK...so it'd be kind of hard for me to be having an affair or doing something that would suggest I'm being shady.
I text him and asked him if he had fun going through it, and he said he couldn't get Safari to work. I was like um, yeah, because I don't use Safari. I use Firefox. He asked me why I was being shady with it and I said that I've used Firefox for the past year because Safari quit working properly. (Like I even needed to provide that explanation?)
Will someone tell me why he's become an insecure douche as of this morning? I'd love to know. Also, he has been with me the past week, no suspicious phone calls, weird texts, and he's asked me to look things up for him on his phone while he's driving, so I am pretty darn sure he's not cheating and projecting his guilty behavior on me.
Also, FWIW, H is very cool about me having time to myself & with my girl friends. He's never been jealous, weird or possessive, so this isn't typical behavior for him. What gives? I am annoyed that he attempted to invade what little privacy I have.
Re: Who wants to be my counselor?
If he was going to snoop, couldn't he have at least closed the windows so you wouldn't have noticed? lol.
Sometimes I hear something, or think something that makes me suspicious of H for no reason. It's totally my own weird thing and has nothing to do with him or anything he's done. Maybe T heard something weird about a friends' cheating wife and got suspicious for no other reason....? Or is it possible he was just legitimately looking for something on your computer and wasn't snooping?
I use Firefox instead of Safari too, just because I like it better.
I think he's kind of freaked out because a lot of my close friends have gotten divorced within the last year. Maybe it's that he's trying to check to make sure I'm not drifting too?
It just sucked knowing that he was trying to be sneaky about it (there weren't any windows open, but my applications all had little black arrows underneath them--Microsoft Word, iChat, Skype, Safari) that showed that they'd been opened but not shut down completely.
I wish he would have said something to me like hey, I'm feeling a little uneasy about us. Is there anything that you're keeping from me that you think I'd want to know? Or maybe tell me why he's feeling insecure and I don't know, maybe TALK to me about it instead of snooping through my sh!t? LOL.
Honestly, I think he just didn't realize that I could tell when an application had been opened. He's a PC guy so he hasn't had much experience at all with a Mac. I really think that if I hadn't told him I knew he snooped, he wouldn't have said anything to me about it.
All of my friends' divorces are final. My best friend from HS just dumped her boyfriend of a year (she got divorced a couple years ago), but we kind of saw that coming because he was being a dumba$$.
I really feel like I'm exposed 99% of the time. He knows my passwords to all my crap. I don't need to hide anything, so it was just like good God, am I not transparent enough for you fvcker?
Talking to him calmly and asking this is what I should do.
I will be mature. I will be mature. I will be mature.
Buuuut....I can't stop thinking about hand stamping him in the middle of the forehead when he walks in.
It seems to me like he has this kind of random jealous freak out about once a year.
Maybe it is man PMS?
I am sorry - I would be pretty p!ssed off too. I went to Dallas with Snowful and few weeks ago and went I got on our computer, I noticed all of our cookies had been deleted. I was so mad because - duh - what an inconvenience! So I asked DH about it and he was like "What, huh?" Clearly, he had deleted the cookies. He had a ton of friends over, I am guessing they were looking at porn - fine. I don't understand why he felt he had to delete the cookies which by the way, made him look even more guilty. He still hasn't fessed up to it which is extremely annoying. Men don't have a ton of common sense.
H has his own computer, so that isn't the issue. His issue is that he felt like he needed to snoop through my sh!t for absolutely no reason.
I'm not opposed to seeing a counselor if he actually doesn't trust me. If he's just being a moron then I'd like to just hear him apologize and say that it won't happen again.