How does your H do w/o you?

MrsJaay · September 2011

I was talking to a friend who was going out of town last week and she had to show her husband how to do laundry before she left b/c he's never done it in his life. Another friend has to bring back meals for her husband to freeze if she goes out of town because he'll just eat cereal and won't make anything else.

How does/would your husband do without you for a few weeks? Would he eat (lol) or keep the house in a reasonable condition? Would his mom take care of some things for him?

Mrs.MillerJune2008 · September 2011

My Dh is pretty self-sufficient. He lived on his own for 4 years before we got married. He can do laundry, cook, clean etc. Although would likely use my being gone as a vacation from some of these things Stick out tongue

MrsJaay · September 2011

Mine is pretty self-sufficient too. I think he would miss more complex meals (not that I cook that complicated) but he would be ok with everything else.

I could definitely see him grilling 7 days a week.

JessicaAlice · September 2011

Mine would do fine if he didnt have Cullen to watch, minus the keeping the house decent. I'm sure I would come back to a disaster of a house.

MrsAllieH · September 2011

He would eat either pasta, or bread dipped in pasta sauce, for every meal. Not because he can't cook other things, just because he's too lazy to make other things. Other than that, though, he'd be fine. He does laundry a lot of the time normally, anyway.

cmc714 · September 2011

I don't think I could have married a man that can't fend for himself. Sorry, I'm not your mother

T would be just fine.

sunshine608 · September 2011

He can take care of himself pretty well. I'm sure he'd eat crap ( Tostinos pizza and Salisbury steak tv dinner mostly) but other than that he'd be fine.

Now as to the condition of the house- I'm not sure I'd want to come back. I'd hire a cleaning lady to be there while I'm gone depending on the length of time. A few days to a week is fine. More than 2-3 weeks and it would be a disaster.

He would try to rely on his mom, but it wouldn't work out. She's a busy lady, enjoying her life and new-found freedom.

MrsJaay · September 2011

cmc714:
I don't think I could have married a man that can't fend for himself. Sorry, I'm not your mother T would be just fine.

I was pleased that my H was appalled at his friend that had to be taught to do laundry at 26.

I was like, that's right you are!

naylon511 · September 2011

J would be fine - he lived alone for at least 10 years before we lived together. Besides, I don't do a ton of cooking. He'd revert to bachelor food/cooking, for sure, but the house would be spotless when I got home.

Even post Jane I never worry about leaving them or having to give him 'instructions'. He knows when she naps, eats, etc. He knows what to feed her, what 'friends' she needs to sleep, etc. I kind of love it.

However, if he had to have her for more than 2 days he'd have his Mom come, for sure. It would be too much for him to take the later train, take her to school, rush home, etc. I do it everyday (!) but his schedule is a little more stressful.

jo&sam · September 2011

As far as taking care of himself and the house Sam would be fine. He wouldn't be able to rely on his mom since she lives so far away.

He may eat cereal the whole time I was gone, but there are times when I'm here that he prefers to eat cereal!

The house may not be deep cleaned when I got back, but it would be reasonably picked up.

Now, if Sam and Marshall were here by themselves for a week...I have no idea what I would come back to!

JusLyn678 · September 2011

He would be totally fine. He might go out to eat for 90% of meals, but that's just because he could get away with it. The house would probably be a disaster until the day before I came home. He is usually pretty good about making sure the house is tidy when I return...even if I am just gone for a weekend. It's great.

JNicMTek · September 2011

He would be fine. He'd probably eat a lot more pizza and soda than he would if I were home, but the house would at least be cleaned before I got home and he does laundry somewhat regularly anyway.

amybyrd · September 2011

He gets bored. I do freeze meals for him when I was gone for 2 weeks but shorter trips no. Normally he will just eat out every meal. Nothing will get picked up and laundry will be done but not put away.

613marriedlady · September 2011

DH already does his own laundry. He wouldn't clean the house, but he would pick up after himself and it would be in the same condition as when I left. He can also cook, but doesn't unless it's breakfast on the weekend. I left for a week earlier this year and he ordered an X-Large pizza Monday and ate it all week. He loves pizza and I would rather not have it, so he took advantage of me being gone.

Temp364615875002474 · September 2011

I think DH would be ok. The two areas of struggle for him would be laundry and keeping the kitchen clean. I do his laundry (by choice lol) and he is usually good about the kitchen unless he's busy (then he likes to let dishes pile up and not run the dishwasher for vacuum). If I left for a few weeks he'd have much more to do and I'm sure kitchen cleanliness would suffer. Poor guy!

bbetson · September 2011

JusLyn678:
He would be totally fine. He might go out to eat for 90% of meals, but that's just because he could get away with it. The house would probably be a disaster until the day before I came home. He is usually pretty good about making sure the house is tidy when I return...even if I am just gone for a weekend. It's great.

This is my DH exactly. He would eat out lots and the house would be a disaster, but he would clean it right before I got home. He lived on his own for awhile, so he can handle it.

MrsBreaux2008 · September 2011

He has proven that over the last 5 months that he will survive and while the house may not be neat and spotless, it won't be wrecked either.

He ate cereal some - but we also eat cereal sometimes for dinner ourselves (like tonight). He's a big boy - if he's hungry, he'll eat. And if he has no clean underwear, he'll wash some clothes.

star678 · September 2011

He can/ has taken care of Natalie and been on his own for about 3 days at a time. He does the laundry around here so that's not an issue, but I can guarantee it would be fast food central around here the whole time. He usually cleans up before I get home, but otherwise I know the house would be a total shitwreck the rest of the time.

MrsL628 · September 2011

He'd do pretty well for himself I think. We both cook, so I know he'd be well-fed, and also work together on laundry & cleaning too. I'm pretty sure he'd lay low while I was gone & then scramble to clean everything up right before I got home, but he'd survive alright.

aflowers · September 2011

My husband acts like he would die if I didn't cook dinner almost every night. If he was on his own for a couple weeks I honestly don't know what he would do. He would probably go to his parents at least a few nights, and would either grill, have frozen pizzas, ramen or spaghetti the rest of the nights. His biggest concern is what he will eat for lunch the next day if there are no leftovers.

I would have no worries about him keeping the house clean. He's the neat freak of the relationship.

Jennrs · September 2011

Ha! He's pretty much the guy who keeps our house clean and orderly, so he does just fine. As for cooking, he might struggle a bit, but he'd figure it out or just make freezer meals.

ernuno787 · September 2011

My DH can be self-sufficient if he wanted to, but never really is. He can do his definition of laundry, which is throwing everything in together. He can't really cook much, he is a frozen food/microwave eater. So, he and the kids would probably be eating out a lot. I don't even want to think about what my house would look like if I left for a couple weeks and he was here with the kids alone. I am sure I would come home to a complete disaster. But, I am sure his mom would probably help him if I had to go somewhere.

Fraux · September 2011

DH is fortunate that he hasn't had to be without me for more than a day or two and that's b/c he's gone away. When I was in the hospital after having the kids, my family or his family have always come over to help with house chores and take care of the kids. He would save his laundry for me, eat out, and definitely wouldn't clean up. The way he was raised-he didn't know how to cook, clean, or do laundry. I've taught him to do all of these b/c at some point he may need to pretend to be a big boy.

mrsjanks · September 2011

Pre-baby, he's fine.

Now, he wouldn't last 24 hours without calling someone over for help!

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