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If you bought/are buying a SS or foreclosure

Is there a part of you that feels badly by profiting from someone else's misery?  We are buying a SS property at almost half of what the owners paid in 2007 and 15% less than the house sold for in 1999.  I am thrilled to be buying such a great house, although it definitely needs decorating and freshening, but I also feel badly that the previous owners lost their family.

I know realistically they lost their house way before we started looking and in the big picture we are helping the neighborhood by bringing stability.  Also, we are helping the economy by purchasing appliances, flooring, counters, fixtures from small locally owned businesses, but a part of me still feels like a vulture.  Anyone else feel that way?

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Re: If you bought/are buying a SS or foreclosure

  • We are buying a short sale. I do not feel bad at all.  In fact, I feel good that I am helping the seller get out of a mortgage she cannot afford.  I do not feel bad about the bank taking a loss on the mortgage. 

    As you stated, buying houses helps the economy improve...so give yourself a pat on the back!

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  • No. If you saw the condition of the house we purchased, you would be able to take some good guesses as to why they lost it. They were obviously pigs.
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    We are buying a short sale. I do not feel bad at all.  In fact, I feel good that I am helping the seller get out of a mortgage she cannot afford.  I do not feel bad about the bank taking a loss on the mortgage. 

    As you stated, buying houses helps the economy improve...so give yourself a pat on the back!

      Thanks for presenting another point of view.  Plus, the painters, plumbers and other contrctors are in need of work and the kitchen and bathroom stores will appreciate our business.

     

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  • YES!  I feel bad when I see a kid's room in a foreclosure because I think about that poor child losing their home and their room. 

    Another SS we looked at the couple was losing it due to an illness and medical bills.  Its sad that our HC system is that effed up that a family loses their home over it.

  • Our situation is different.  The wife was killed in a car accident, and the husband just walked away.  I don't blame him - I would have, too.  I don't feel bad we are buying a forclosure, but I do feel bad the husband lost his wife, and a son lost his stepmother.
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  • I don't really feel "bad" It does kind of suck for them though because they paid a lot more for it than we did.

    12/2004-115k

    06/2005-170k

    10/2010-listed for 100k down to 67550 in 06/2011 when we put our contract in.  

    Our purchase price is 70k which includes seller 3% closing costs.

    I just don't see how the house was EVER worth that much in the beginning.

    It's 864sq feet on a little over an acre.  Out in the country.

    No children were involved and we never met the seller, however she left all her meds & she was on anti-psych drugs (bipolar, schizophrenia, anxiety, etc.) so that part makes me a little scared that she might be angry and try to come back to the house.  Although, I doubt it...

    In the end they moved out quite a while ago (close to a year) and they are doing a SS so obviously they want out of the house and I guess we are helping with that. 

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  • In 2003, they built and bought the house for $250..

    we are buying for $155.... I don't like to think about it but when I realized how LONG our offer has been in it makes me sick.

  • We are in the process of selling our home as a short sale. (We were going to rent it out but it completely fell through..long story.) For us, we have to move and don't have a choice. If we were to get an offer tomorrow we would be completely thrilled because we would have avoided the foreclosure process. You never know someones situation. Not everyone's story is "misery." Sucky at times, yes but certainly not where I would want anyone feeling bad for us. I'm sure there are sad stories out there but if they sell it as a SS than that's MUCH better than the alternative.
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  • My DH and I just signed the contract on a SS home and it has been submitted to the bank for approval.  The couple that lives there has been there for 20 years and it's just too much house for them and they have had health issues and just cannot maintain the house anymore.  This house needs A LOT of work and has an oil tank leaking that we will have to pay to remediate and remove...sheesh.  It's probably best for them that they move on to something more manageable and a short sale is better than foreclosure.  

     Also, my mother lost our house I grew up in last year.  Her financial troubles were based on my father being terminally ill for 8 years and passing in 2007.  He lost his health insurance when he left work on disability (should be illegal) and then they lost everything to pay medical bills.  Seriously screwed up.  But losing the house was the least of our concerns after my dad's passing and honestly as many happy memories that we had in that house the last 8 years had been really hard and those memories were there too.  It just had a bad joo-joo to me.  Mom was lucky to find an adorable and way more manageable home on a lake where she is really happy and can have a fresh start.  Sometimes that is what people need in this situations. 

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  • I don't feel bad at all.  We had to sell our beautiful home to move out of state and took a huge loss because of the economy...nothing we did wrong.  We hope to find a deal to make up for our loss...looking at short sales now but have not found one. 

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