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Divorcing a spouse with Alzheimer's
So, I was reading this article and I just don't think it's right. I can almost see the point but it just doesn't seem like that's what the point of marriage is.
Re: Divorcing a spouse with Alzheimer's
I know of a couple where the wife has had advanced Alzheimer's for several years. The husband took care of her in their home until it was no longer feasible for him to do so. He is in good health and has a lady friend whom he dates. He is still married to his wife, and cares for her in the ways he can, but has chosen to not be without companionship.
I just can't fault the guy for continuing to live.
ETA: Divorcing a sick spouse is chickensh!t and cruel.
I don't have a problem with him getting on with his life so much as divorcing her.
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This makes my blood boil. It's not OK under any circumstance (in my book) to divorce or abandon someone just because they have Alzheimers or any other disease. I hate that this man is publicly condoning that.
That being said, the man can absolutely have a social life if he desires. However, he needs to be making regular visits to check on the well being and care of his spouse...if nothing else.
Arghh.
I'm with Tiffany on this one. It makes me very mad. Both my grandmother's have Alzheimer's. My grandfather's passed away years ago so it is a different situation. In my mind divorcing someone because of a illness they can't help is just plan selfish and wrong. I don't except someone to stop their life for someone else but you gave that person your word that you would be there for them in "sickness and health, for better or worse, till death do us part." Alzheimer's may be "kind of like death" but the person is still breathing and to the best of their ability function.
My great uncle cared for my great aunt as a full time job. She had Parkinson's and some other illness. He was always with her taking care of her. She got the disease while both of their children were still young. He quit his very well paying government job to be there to care for her and the boys full time. He knew she wouldn't live a long life but he made a promise to her. She passed away about 6 years ago. Within a year, he was married to a wonderful lady and they travel the world together. I have never seen him so happy. He loved my great aunt dearly and they still went on vacations with my grandparents (easier with some other help) but now he gets to enjoy it a little more.
Like Deepthi, I can't say much since I have not lived it but I could not imagine doing this to DH. I imagine it's draining but come on...
Plus look at who this is coming from.
I've had so many examples in my life (both grandfathers took care of both grandmothers until their passing for starters) that I, myself, can't imagine not staying with my husband.
I don't agree with divorce but it is hard for me to say that he shouldn't find a way to be social and have companionship.
My grandfather married by grandmother when they were 17 and stayed with her even when she developed mental disease and was horrible to him. He cared for her until he no longer could and only put her in a nursing home at our request (he was 160lbs and she was 200lbs and he was having to lift her, move her, ect) when they were in their 80's. He never divorced her and even when things were not wonderful he said I took a vow for better or worse and sometimes there is more worse. He visited her in the nursing home every Sunday even when she didnt know who he was. With that said though he did seek companionship with a friend he had for years whose husband had died and they went on vacation together and polka danced every Sunday. I honestly was so happy he got to be happy for the last couple years of his life, but some viewed it as a form of cheating.