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Baby better have good timing (vent/ long)
and I know that's not reality! But ugh, so, DH and I had a plan. His parents were going to come and stay at our house and take care of our pets... and then they said they found a hotel and were going to stay there (but we assumed they could still do pet duty). Then, I was talking to DH the other day and found out he never actually talked to them about taking care of the pets.
I came to realize the dog will be better at Petsmart anyway-- he comes home from boarding tired/ calm vs neurotic when others take care of him... so that seemed like a good option... but we still need someone to be backup and drop off the dog if we end up rushing to the hospital before the store opens.
Just now, DH talked to his parents and they are now just coming down for the day when she's born & then will head back up to Maine. Their plan was to stay at an extended stay hotel for a few days... I don't want to be overwhelmed but I totally expected that we'd be surrounded by family. DH is really disappointed and I think he feels his parents feel like they'd be stepping on my (and my family's) toes. I feel bad for him because my family can be overwhelming. I know I'm going to be complaining that no one will leave us alone but at this point, I think we're just feeling disappointed!
(in terms of figuring out the dog transport, we have a semi-plan at this point... but it's more of a crapshoot of who will help us out)
Re: Baby better have good timing (vent/ long)
I am sorry they aren't being supportive. Is your family in the area? I know its hard right now because you don't know when she will decide to come and what the time will be like, but it will all work out. Its so hard with all of the unknown about birth and labor.
When I had DS we had determined that DF was going to go spend the night with the dog and last minute his brother volunteer to stay with him instead, so that DF could be with me and baby.
Good luck!
I think it's just disappointing that we had been told that his parents would be around for a while and now they are just doing a day trip... it just makes us sad. Things might change, who knows. Thanks for the support though.
ditto this. To my ultimate consternation, MH's dad and SM did the same with both kids. Partly I think they didn't want to overwhelm us with visitors, and partly because for some reason I think they feel shut out when my parents are around. (Can I help it if my parents are the best help with the kids??) Maybe your H's parents want to come back when it can be just them?
stinks about the pets, though.