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I don't know if I can take any more!
This post is going to be dramatic for sure, and it really belongs on the Seattle Babies board, but...
James and I have wanted another baby for a long time...a VERY long time, and there is something wrong and we aren't able to have another. We don't have the $ to pay for fertility treatments, so we are just hoping and praying.
I don't think I can take another friend telling me they are pregnant. Seriously. I got an email from a friend yesterday saying that she's pregnant and that it's a miracle because of their age and stuff that her husband has done to his body. Now this morning I get ANOTHER email from a different friend that I haven't talked to in about a year saying that she's expecting in December. It is the 3rd baby for both. I try to be happy for them, but the truth of the matter is that I am JEALOUS beyond measure. I know them having a baby has nothing to do with us not having a baby. It's not like they are taking our baby, but I am just so frustrated with our situation and every announcement I hear is like a slap in the ovaries.
On top of it, I love my son more than anything in the world, and I feel bad that I am not content.
TTC #2 for a million years: SA normal, CD 23 bloodwork shows nothing amiss, ovulation detected. Next step: ? maybe CD3 bloodwork to check eggs? All out of pocket, so limited IF tests/treatments.
Re: I don't know if I can take any more!
i'm very sorry that it hasn't been an easy process for you. i assume you are already doing all the good stuff---charting and tracking temps and everything. is stress getting to you in any way? a friend of mine who's having trouble, but also can't afford IF treatments....her reg dr suggested her to "stop trying"...don't chart, and don't do anything anymore, and just let it happen. they're still younger (late 20's), so the dr said if nothing happens in a year, then they can talk other methods, but for now, to just stop and see what happens.i don't know if this is a good suggestion or not based on what your timeline looks like.
just keep your head up and smile...you have a miracle baby and until you get pregnant again, he gets 100% of your love.
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I'm sorry honey. I know that must be frustrating. I'm ready to have a baby and most of my friends have recently had theirs. However, I'm not even able to have sex right now and they can't figure out what's wrong. I have to go see a specialist at UW now. It's frustrating and I feel isolated as it seems like everyone else can have sex, what "broke" with me that I can't anymore? So I can't even GET to the necessary step to try and get pregnant. Every time someone asks us when we're having kids, it's like a slap to my face because it's completely out of my control and it feels like they're just rubbing in my "inadequacy". Not that most people even KNOW. Not trying to trump your post, just trying to explain that I think I have a pretty good idea of how you're feeling right now.
I think Jenn's right in that perhaps "trying" so hard is actually making you feel stressed about it and that could be causing it's own problems.
**HUGS**
hugs - I understand how hard it is and sadly don't have much advice.
I think accupuncture helped me the first go around and that is my first step if things take awhile again since I can't do fertility stuff while nursing.
jenn is wise.
I know there's really nothing else to say because you already know everything and are aware of your feelings. Just remember at every stage of life there is something to be frustrated about and other people to compare yourself too - remember there are single girls out there who dream of being married and childless couples who would die to have one kid. Not saying you should feel guilty, just a good reminder to be thankful
Plus all the things that aren't marriage/kid related: jobs, food, housing, parents...
It's totally ok to vent here, and better here than to those friends. You aren't crazy for having those feelings and we'll try to support you
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This is a good thing to keep in mind, thank you.
We have tried just seeing how it goes (not preventing, not trying), charting, OPKs, not charting, "just having fun," etc. It's been a four year journey so far for #2.
Thanks for not giving me the big eye roll girls. I appreciate it. I know we are blessed for having Tman. He is the most AMAZING kid: such a great heart, generous, loving, smart, and super handsome. But, even he is constantly talking about wanting a little brother/sister and I hate that I can't give him that. That is the killer when your kid talks about how he wants to be a big brother.
KST_ I am really sorry for your situation as well. I hope you get some answers soon and can really start your TTC journey. Hugs to you.
TTC #2 for a million years: SA normal, CD 23 bloodwork shows nothing amiss, ovulation detected. Next step: ? maybe CD3 bloodwork to check eggs? All out of pocket, so limited IF tests/treatments.