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WWYD... Funeral and get together (poll)
I realize the subject of this is really really horrible and I"m sorry.
I posted last week about my MIL and her cancer. It's worse than DH and I thought. My FIL called yesterday to say that MIL is in home hospice and the doctors gave her 1 month max but more like 2 weeks (she's only on pain pills since the doctors can't do anymore for her). Both my FIL and DH are going to be incredibly lost since she really is the glue to the family. DH is an only child and so much a momma's boy (don't hate me for saying it but it's true). I love my MIL so it'll be hard on me as well.
Anyways.... Every year DH and I throw a Halloween party. This is going to be our 4th annual and it's always a ton of fun with friends, food, drinks etc and usually tends to start about 4pm and the last of our friends usually leaves around sunrise.
Given that my MIL is this sick and it's just a matter of time would you cancel the Halloween party? My in laws (and my family too) are in Wisconsin so we'll be traveling back there within the next month. DH said it's completely up to me about canceling the party. My cousin and others I talked to said to still have it since it'll get normalacy back quicker but I'm literally 50/50. While yes it'll be good to have our friends around to help us heal, I'm not going to be in the "party" mood.
Invites haven't gone out yet but our friends have already said they've started planning their costume etc.
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Re: WWYD... Funeral and get together (poll)
I would keep it as scheduled for now but know you may have to cancel it last minute, your friends would totally understand. And honestly, as bad as this sounds too...there is no way of "knowing" exactly how long your MIL will make it, some people are told they have a month and live many more while others are told years and only make it a few days, you never know. So the short answer is I would keep the party as it is..
i will keep you and DH i my thoughts!!
Agreed! Unless it's that large of a party that it would be impossible to cancel at last minute.
this
i'm so sorry about your MIL
lots of good thoughts to DH's family
I voted "OTHER" but it's really "KEEP THE PARTY BUT ADD A BACK-UP PLAN"
My grandmother was given 2 weeks to live and lasted another 7 months. It was utterly exhausting (and horribly morbid) just keeping life on hold waiting for the other shoe to drop.
I would go ahead and throw the party. Emotionally you and DH will NEED some light-heartedness to deal with the loss. However, I would ask one very good friend to be willing to serve as the 'back-up location' or even just host in my house should we be required to be OOT.
I agree with everyone else. Keep the party, but have a backup plan.
And I am so sorry.