Wedding related question

ericandmarie · September 2011

H and I are attending his cousin's wedding when we are back home (one of the main reasons we decided to fly back). It's a destination wedding for them and in the invitation it asked if we get them a gift to send it to their home in DC.

I've been looking on their registry and everything they want is well over $100 a piece. And while we'd love to spend that much on their gift we have another wedding to attend (and buy a gift for) while we're there and not to mention that the tickets and boarding Bentley is pretty pricey in itself.

Do you think it would be tacky to just get them a card and put cash in there? Would $50 be enough? Or is that being cheap? We're not SUPER close to them if that helps (we're actually closer to the people at the other wedding). We haven't been to many weddings so I don't know what is 'okay' and what isn't.

kyrgyzstan · September 2011

Firstly, they are kind of brats for not putting lower priced options. Secondly, $50 is very generous. I'd either do cash or a gc to where they are registered.

Beachy730 · September 2011

Only you can decide what you are comfortable giving them as a gift. Have you tried looking for any of there registry items on Amazon or another site to see if you can get it cheaper? Or you could always just get them a different gift not from the registry too. I'm a big fan of giving money at weddings, but if you're worried about it not being enough usually a physical gift is easier to hide the cost. But if not, I think you're totally fine giving $50, especially if you're traveling.

ericandmarie · September 2011

WishIcouldbeinthe'stan:
Firstly, they are kind of brats for not putting lower priced options. Secondly, $50 is very generous. I'd either do cash or a gc to where they are registered.

I thought the same thing.

I should say they have a total of 5 things that are lower priced out of their two registries and they are things like a mixing spoon, ladle, measuring cups etc.

They've been living together for a year now, so if they don't have the simple things mentioned above...? Lol

kyrgyzstan · September 2011

dnbeach12:
Only you can decide what you are comfortable giving them as a gift. Have you tried looking for any of there registry items on Amazon or another site to see if you can get it cheaper?

The problem with that is that then they might get multiples.

ericandmarie · September 2011

WishIcouldbeinthe'stan:
dnbeach12:
Only you can decide what you are comfortable giving them as a gift. Have you tried looking for any of there registry items on Amazon or another site to see if you can get it cheaper?

The problem with that is that then they might get multiples.

I was thinking this too.

I don't know what they would do with two touch screen crock pots?! Haha

FMIL&MOB · September 2011

Give what you can afford and are happy with giving them. You can give them a gift card to one of the stores where they registered. They can use it toward something later, or maybe combine it with other cards they received as a gift.

Brandienee85 · September 2011

I am with Stan, 50 is more than enough. If they think that your gift isn't good enough, they are jerks.

kristend33 · September 2011

I would give a gift card to one of the stores where they are registered. I also agree with everyone else, $50 is very generous!

Beachy730 · September 2011

WishIcouldbeinthe'stan:
dnbeach12:
Only you can decide what you are comfortable giving them as a gift. Have you tried looking for any of there registry items on Amazon or another site to see if you can get it cheaper?

The problem with that is that then they might get multiples.

True. It wouldn't be the end of the world though if it happened.

And I do agree that it's crappy that all of their items are so expensive. I would much rather give a $50 gift card than a $50 serving spoon.

DowagerCountessofNJ · September 2011

I hate that people feel obligated to give a minimum amount for a gift. $50 is more than enough; whether it's cash or a gift card to where they're registered is entirely your decision.

ErikandAfton · September 2011

WishIcouldbeinthe'stan:
Firstly, they are kind of brats for not putting lower priced options. Secondly, $50 is very generous. I'd either do cash or a gc to where they are registered.

I totally agree. $50 is more than generous.

MrsAggie · September 2011

Having all of their gifts at such an expensive price is so tacky. Although we received a couple of gift cards at $50 and above, the majority of our gift cards were for $25 and we were thrilled! Plus, when you choose to have a destination wedding, you're usually choosing to give up a little in the gifts department because your guests have to shell out some cash to travel.

ericandmarie · September 2011

MrsAggie:
Having all of their gifts at such an expensive price is so tacky. Although we received a couple of gift cards at $50 and above, the majority of our gift cards were for $25 and we were thrilled! Plus, when you choose to have a destination wedding, you're usually choosing to give up a little in the gifts department because your guests have to shell out some cash to travel.

Honestly, I wouldn't expect anything less. They have very.. um.. expensive taste and like to flaunt it. They always throw in the price tag on everything they're talking about, buying, etc.

Thanks guys! I think we'll just do a gift card to where they're registered.

mrsredrox · September 2011

Wow, I can't believe they don't have anything under $100.00! $50 is more then enough, especially with that kind of entitlement from the couple.

And FWIW, one of my FAVORITE wedding gifts wasn't on my registry. It was our invite in a beautiful framed shadow boxed with the same kind of flowers I had in my bouquet framing the invite. I thought it was gorgeous and something we'll keep forever. Maybe you can DIY something thoughtful?

ErikandAfton · September 2011

mrsredrox:
Wow, I can't believe they don't have anything under $100.00! $50 is more then enough, especially with that kind of entitlement from the couple.

And FWIW, one of my FAVORITE wedding gifts wasn't on my registry. It was our invite in a beautiful framed shadow boxed with the same kind of flowers I had in my bouquet framing the invite. I thought it was gorgeous and something we'll keep forever. Maybe you can DIY something thoughtful?

We got something like this. Our invite's were designed by me and hand made by my mom's good friend. E's Aunt matted it and framed it in a beautiful silver frame. Its sitting in our dinning room next to my favorite picture from our wedding. I love it!

Beachy730 · September 2011

mrsredrox:

And FWIW, one of my FAVORITE wedding gifts wasn't on my registry. It was our invite in a beautiful framed shadow boxed with the same kind of flowers I had in my bouquet framing the invite. I thought it was gorgeous and something we'll keep forever. Maybe you can DIY something thoughtful?

My mom and my aunt (MOH) had my bouquet preserved right after the wedding, and the place that did it put it into a shadow box frame with one of our invitations. We were totally surprised by it when they gave it to me for my birthday a month later, since I never knew or really thought about what happened to my bouquet. I absolutely love it, and we have it hanging on the landing of our staircase. I totally agree that an awesome gift like that is worth more than anything on a registry.

Sibil · September 2011

They're jerks. I had a DW, and I only barely had a registry. I really only had it b/c my parents asked me to, but most everything was inexpensive (the most was 1 item at $125, purchased by someone who ended up getting deployed instead of coming to the wedding). Honestly, I didn't expect a single gift from anyone who paid to travel.

Kendraish · September 2011

I agree...the cheapest gift they have is 100..that is just rude. But I see nothing wrong with a little cash, check or gift card. We got lots of checks, and gift cards, and it was my favorite thing, so now I get everyone gift cards or money as a gift, and 50 is plenty!

crownsuperstar · September 2011

WishIcouldbeinthe'stan:

Firstly, they are kind of brats for not putting lower priced options. Secondly, $50 is very generous. I'd either do cash or a gc to where they are registered.

Yeah I totally agree!!! When the H and I registered, we put things from all price ranges on it. I think that $50 is totally fine and very generous. I loved the gift cards we got to the places we registered. We ended up going in and finding a lot of stuff on sale that we got on top of the items we were registered for.

Junebug060609 · September 2011

Just get them cash or a GC for whatever your budget allows.

Problem. Solved.

kaynix21 · September 2011

WishIcouldbeinthe'stan:
Firstly, they are kind of brats for not putting lower priced options. Secondly, $50 is very generous. I'd either do cash or a gc to where they are registered.

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