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Looking for advice, opinions and info
Hi ladies. My DH is currently deployed with his reserve unit. He dropped it on me last week that once he gets back, he would like to enlist and go full time. I have grown up in a smaller town all my life and my parents live down the street. DH had 13 years in already and is currently a logistics coordinator. He would like to go into EOD or SF. We are really discussing the pros and cons of this decision. We have until January to decide. Are there bases that are better than others? How does it work when you live on base? Etc.... I am really new to all of this and I have only been an Army wife for a few months, so I don't know a lot of the ins and outs. I would love to hear what some of you think of being a full-time Army wife.
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Re: Looking for advice, opinions and info
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Like the other poster said, it really depends on the person as to what post is "the best" but also every post is what you make of it. We've been stationed at Fort Bliss and hated it but know some that love it, we were stationed at Fort Polk and didn't mind it but most people hate it. If you're husband is planning on going SF there are only a handful of post that he can even get stationed at and I think actually once he gets into SF and gets stationed somewhere that'll be pretty much where you guys will stay for his career in SF(someone correct me if I'm wrong). I've also heard EOD school has the highest washout rate, so he has to be on his game to even pass it(not saying he isn't/won't be) but all these things play a part into what could happen/where you could end up.
You can chose to live on or off post, some post have really nice housing and others look like rundown shacks. You give your entire BAH to live on post, some you don't have to pay utilities, some have an average and if you go over it you pay the difference.
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This is sort of my view on it now. At first, I was very much not for the idea. I have always lived a very sheltered life. I am extrememly close to my family and I think it would be the hardest on them. Did any of you have big issues with your family being against your decision? If so, how did you handle that? Also, what is the housing like? More so in detail I mean. Are they houses, apartments, duplexes? Do you purchase them or rent them? I am sorry that I have so many questions, but I am really trying to weigh our options. Obviously this is a life changing event and can't be decided overnight. Where we currently live, the economy is horrible. There are very few jobs and my DH got laid off a couple years ago and was only able to find part time work after that. I however have been at my current job for 5 1/2 years, but it is with a large publishing company and I could transfer. His views on all of this are that he wants to be able to provide for and support his family. I understand where he is coming from. DH seems pretty set on the decision right now and I think I just need to hear more stories and details from women who are in that position. I love reading what you have all said so far. It seems as though it is as good as you make it. Does that seem accurate? What do you all do to pass the time? Are there things that make the lifestyle hard? What adaptations did you have to make have this lifestyle work for you? Sacrifices? I would love to hear all of your opinions. Thanks ladies!
Poke around here and look at several different ones. For your questions, the most useful information is usually in the "housing costs" link for each one.
Also, remember that if he goes AD, once you find out what base you're going to you can always contact the housing office before you get there to find out the basics about housing at that particular base.
I'll leave you this link as well. Also feel free to click the link in my signature for additional general information.
Life in general is usually as good as you make it, in or out of the military. I spend my time working, going to grad school, and taking care of my family--just as I would if my H was a civilian. Moving and the unpredictability of deployments make my life a bit more complicated than it would be if H wasn't in the Army, but we both try our hardest to enjoy the here and now and not agonize too much about potential difficulties in the future. I will eventually have to leave a job I love, and may have to transfer to a different school to complete my MA, and those are definitely going to be sacrifices for me, but like most other inconveniences in life I'll deal with it and adapt.
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For almost the first 2 years of our marriage we were stationed only a little over an hour from my hometown so that was no big deal, then we moved 950 miles away and it was hard for me. I'm very close with my family, my mom is my best friend and I hate not being there with her but she definitely understands. I go home and visit often but when I'm here(where we're stationed) it's also home and I do everything I would normally do if I still lived in my hometown. You adjust, make new friends and the time passes just like it would if you hadn't moved away from your comfort zone. I was extremely shy but being a military wife you really put yourself out there to make new friends. It's hard being away from all that you've known especially when your DH has to be away but that's when you're Army family comes in.
As far as post housing, it depends on the post.You do rent them, if you don't have children then most of them will only give you a 2 bedroom and they're usually either apartments(4plex), townhouses or duplexes. You rent them, but a lot of post have wait list. We're PCSing in a few days and our new duty station has a 6-9 month wait so we'll be living off post until we can get on post.
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Do all bases allow you to live off post or do some require you to stay on post? Also, does anyone here have a bit older children that you have had to take away from family? I have a 9 year old from a previous marriage and I am afraid of how he will take it as well as my family having to live without him. I know my family will be supportive of our ultimate decision, but I am afraid how everyone will react if and when the time comes.
I moved away from home (like, 2000 miles away) years before H and I dated, so that wasn't an issue. I was already used to seeing my family only once a year or less, as money and vacation at a corporate job allowed. My family encouraged me to travel instead of going home with my limited vacation, so this worked out well to transition to military.
But if your H is a loggie, be prepared for lots of deployments. Right now a lot of them are on a 6 month on 6 off rotation, but it's a couple months of training usually. So it's possible they're only home 4 months out of any given year. Are you prepared to live with that?
He is currently in logistics, but would change jobs to either SF or EOD.