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Our tech team has launched updates to The Nest today. As a result of these updates, members of the Nest Community will need to change their password in order to continue participating in the community. In addition, The Nest community member's avatars will be replaced with generic default avatars. If you wish to revert to your original avatar, you will need to re-upload it via The Nest.
If you have questions about this, please email help@theknot.com.
Thank you.
Note: This only affects The Nest's community members and will not affect members on The Bump or The Knot.
Why is motherhood such a pissing contest??
I just don't get why everything must be a competition. If our children make it through life alive and haven't killed anyone I'd say we all did well. 
Vent over.
Vent over. 
Re: Why is motherhood such a pissing contest??
I've found that it's different in different circles. The girls I hang out, the neighbors, and all but one person I know IRL are all awesome, supportive, and not competitive. The people online (and one IRL in west Omaha) seem to have the most competitiveness that I've seen. I think most people who think others are being competitive are typically just talking about positive things and others decide to be defensive therefore making it a pissing match. You can't talk about anything going well without someone else deciding to be angry about it. That's the main reason I've cut back on my nesting quite a bit. I read a handful of posts whereas I used to read them all and respond to many of them. I like the nest and being a part of the community of women on here, but the less I am involved the more I like it.
Have you ever heard the quote, "I was a really good mom before I had kids." ?
Yeah, I think all of us were! I certainly said (though not out loud to anyone besides the H) what we were and were NOT going to do when we became parents. And, I'm pretty much failing at everything I said - LOL! And heck, I still say what I'm going to do (or not) with my school-aged or teenage children. Why I haven't learned yet, I do not know. . .
PLEASE don't let that get to you; they, too, will see how it really is once they're there.
Finally, if there are pissing matches, it's most likely because, like you said, everyone thinks their way is the best way.
Then they have shockingly bad manners. That's all. I don't think motherhood is a pissing contest, it's just some people are idiots & don't realize when to zip it.
I have a big mouth but this is one thing I try reeeeeally hard not to do... comment on other people's parenting. I figure, not my kids, not my problem. Unless people are specifically asking for advice, and even then, I tread very lightly... it's so easy to offend people (as has clearly happened to you).
Don't worry - I figure everyone is trying to be the best parent they can be - and your kids are lucky to have you. If your friends are being obnoxious, maybe this is a time for a little cooling off or distance. Hang in there.
You should post this on your FB for them all to read. And then tell them all to suck it.
http://www.babyrabies.com/2011/09/the-trouble-with-being-a-judgemental-b/
This was the situation I had when we had Peyton. My friends are just now starting to get married and have kids and they all had their two cents when it came to having kids... oddly enough they are doing all the things they "wouldn't do" now that they have kids. Strange how that happens. I am not really friends with many of them anymore if for nothing else than we are at completely different points in our lives right now.
Cracky has it right
The quote says it all, we all think we know the best way then, when the time comes, we make realistic choices 