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How often do you talk with your MIL/FIL during deployments?
Do they call you to check in? How often? Or do you not really hear from them until husband gets home? Or do you talk to them but you have to call them?
Just curious!
Re: How often do you talk with your MIL/FIL during deployments?
We only talk to MIL on holidays as it is (K and Bean's birthdays, Christmas, Mother's Day and sometimes Easter) so when K's not here, I don't talk to her at all. Actually, sometimes on Mother's Day, we call her, she doesn't answer so we leave a message, and she never calls back. So, yea, I don't feel bad about not calling her during deployment.
I do, however, talk to several of K's other family members while he's gone. His Papaw, Aunt & Uncle, and sister. I probably talked to them about once a month each, more around the holidays.
We have been lucky and have been able to carry on an email conversation most days during both deployments. We scheduled phone calls for Sunday mornings (my time) during the last deployment. We're both horrible phone conversationalists and the delay and static really irritate us both.
ETA: Clearly I didn't read the whole title before posting. It's been a rough morning.
Anyway...I talked to them maybe once a month at the most. My MIL just cries about anything add in a deployment and it's a non-stop sob fest for 12 months. I avoid it at all costs.
I rarely, if ever, call my MIL when H is gone. She'll call me once a week or so to check in, and only sometimes will I answer. She doesn't listen when I talk, so it gets really annoying. Like one day last deployment I called to tell her H got the care package his family had sent. She called me the next day at 2am my time completely frantic because she hadn't heard from him in a week and thought something was wrong. I freaking just told you yesterday that I talked to him. So I usually just let it go to voicemail. She leaves 2-3 minute voicemails about nothing, and at the end feels like she talked to me so it works.
I don't have a relationship with my FIL, and H doesn't really either. I met him the night before our wedding, and we never hear from him.
I hear from them maybe once a month, even though they live about 10 minutes away from me. And that's usually via Facebook.
67/200
That sounds perfect! I doubt it'll be like that for this next trip, sadly. I just hate talking on the phone so much, unless it's H or Ojo actually.