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Before you were ready?
Did anyone here get pregnant before they were ready? Are/were you disappointed? Did anyone here get pregnant before their first anniversary? What are some thoughts and/or feelings did you have?
Re: Before you were ready?
Shortly after we got engaged we found out I was pregnant. My dr office called and said congrats! I nearly ripped the gals head off, because it was not something to congradulate me on. I was mid training for 2 marathons, my ILs were being terrible to us, and we had talked about having kids WAY down the road. I cried. I cried a lot. Then we had to have a conversation about abortion. I have always been opposed to it as a choice for myself (fully support the right to choose), but this wasn't just me, this was me & DH. DH has a STD (from previous one night stand) and if I contract it during conception it could cause birth defects and pregnancy complications.
I had a miscarriage (8% body fat will do that to ya) at 13 weeks. I was pretty upset at that too. Afterwards DH&I both agreed that we would have kids and we would figure out how to do it with his STD, so that I don't get it and that it doesn't get passed to them. We both want to wait until our 1yr anniversary before TTC, enjoy our time being married before kids. I don't know if it helps, but when you aren't planning on it-it can be a really emotional trip, and I think it's best to just go with it (emotionally).
Big Fat Positive
I'm just lurking, but wanted to post too
I got a BFP after DH and I had been married about a month. He was leaving for 8 months (Army) a couple weeks later. I was excited/not excited at the same time. I had a miscarriage 4 days after he left.
He came home. I got a BFP about 3 months later. We were excited that time. I was on BC but it failed. Our daughter was born in June of 2010 and we can't imagine life without her. She is the greatest little thing in the world
i actually had a baby with my fiance just a few mths ago, we conceived about 3 mths after we started dating....i was so not ready since the relationship was still fresh to me...but i knew i wanted another one at some point. Fate, i guess, had a different path in store for me, but i was thrilled...a little overwhelmed at times since i have a 4 1/2 year old, too, but greatful for my little ones everyday
I'm a little worried that I'll be excited at first but then not be excited about it...
nope. i take the appropriate steps to not become preggo. anyone can-it's pretty easy.
Too bad you didn't take the appropriate steps not to be an ***.
I was ready to become pg, but I did become pregnant before my first anniversary. In fact, dd's due date was before our anniversary.
Are you worried about your relationship? About things you wanted to do as a couple before you had a family? Your career? IMO, you can still do those things if you have a support system around you (friends, family). As children, my siblings and I would stay with my parents friends (who had children the same age) while they went away.
? wasn't being snarky. answered her question. i can answer with snark if you want next time.
butts don't make babies!!
Yeah, I'm the product of a failed IUD. There is no such thing as 100% effective birth control.
We got pregnant 3 months after our wedding. It was planned as I was 36 almost 37, have PCOS and have a history of having a difficult time getting pregnant. It took me 4 years to get pregnant with my first DD (previous marriage).
I wish we would have had the luxury of waiting but given my history that wasn't an option. I wouldn't change things at all.
There is such a thing as 100% effective birth control. It's called abstinence. Beyond that, if you avoid sex between your first day of your period to a couple days after ovulation, then you will not get pregnant.
So what does this mean? You're not pregnant but you think you might become pregnant even though you feel you might not be ready? If so, I agree with previous poster. If you're not sure you're ready, WAIT! A lot of times the children suffer when people have kids before they're really ready. Birth control can and DOES work if used correctly. I used it for 12 years and never got pregnant. Went off of it after getting married and was pregnant 6 weeks later. Big shout out to planned pregnancies!
And yes, our first baby was two months old on our 1 year wedding anniversary. It was great because we were 31 years old, financially stable and READY to be parents!
Yes, I got pregnant about a month before our wedding, and we didn't find out until after the honeymoon. While it was a shock at the time, we adjusted our plans, and everything is absolutely fine. I really can't imagine life without DD, she's been pretty much the best surprise ever!