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It's been a while...HI!

I know I haven't been around for a long time.  But I wanted to stop by and say hi.  So, HI!  Congrats to all the newly pregnant and new mom's out there.  I've been so busy with work.  I'm taking on some new duties at work.  We are launching a social media initiative and I am in charge of it (yay for promotions)! 

I have to admit thought tha I have an alterior motive for posting.  I need to vent!  A friend of mine at work is 8 months pregnant and will be leaving the company in a week.  She is giving me the cold shoulder when she sees me taking on some of the responsibilities that usually would go to her.  She asks us our opinion on things regarding the baby and birth, etc.  We tell her our experiences and says that is not how things will go.  She has gone to every class that they offer and thinks that the things she learns in these classes is bible (feed every 2 hours, on binkey for 4 weeks, no pumping for 6 weeks, etc).  She even went so far as to tell me that I am wrong when I say I was not able to breast feed DD because I never produced milk.  She says that she was told that every woman can breast feed.  She is becoming one of those pregnant women I dispise.  The ones who think that their child will be the most well behaved, sleep through the night from day 1, never fuss, think that everyone who doesn't breast feed is wrong, etc.  To this day, not being able to breast feed DD is a sore spot with me.  I really wish I was able to, I tried, it just never worked for me.  I think she is going to be in for a rude awakening because birth and parenting and never what they say it is going to be!  Ok, vent over. 

If you made it this far, congratulations.  Hope everyone has a great day.  And I am going to try to be around more often.

Re: It's been a while...HI!

  • She'll find out soon enough.
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  • Believe me she is in for a rude awakening. I had my LO in July and all along I knew I was going to breastfeed. I figured it would be easy and it would work out great. Boy was I wrong. I wound up with a cracked nipple and had to pump one side and only feed off the good side. Breastfeeding took 7 weeks to finally work and if I would not have taken it day by day I would have quit.

    I was the same way with the no bottle/pacifier for 4-6 weeks as that is what the class told you, however LO had a bottle at 3 weeks and a pacifier at 4 weeks. Its nice to try to stick to the things they tell you in the class but I have learned so far in my short 8 weeks that you just have to roll with the punches and the baby makes the rules.

     

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  • I'm still baking my bun in my oven so I dont know how it will end up for me but I have seen my bestfriend, my sister, DH's SIL and other girls I know that tried to breastfeed and its all different. I agree with pp she will find out soon enough. My sister wanted to breastfeed for as long as she can but she was just not producing enough, she tried everything from breast pump, manual, nipple pump but just couldnt produce enough. It all boils down to making sure your baby get enough food to grow.

    If im in your position, I can't wait to say I TOLD YOU SO! because she is in for some rude awakening hehehhe

     

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  • I have a friend who, while she wasn't like that during pregnancy too bad, once she had that kid, oh my goodness.  Did you know that her baby is the fastest grower, smartest, and overall most ahead of the curve baby EVER!?!?! Her son will be 5 months soon, and he'll probably be walking in the next week.  It can be very frustrating, but I've learned to take it with a grain of salt.  Although she has made some comments that are just flat out crazy.  Then I do have to comment.
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  • She's in for a world of hurt when life with a newborn doesn't fall into line with that picture perfect image she's created in her head.  You might want to check in with her a week or two after she has the baby.  Having such unrealistic expectations might make her more susceptible to PPD because she's going to struggle to let go and accept that no parent is perfect and that that's ok.  
  • She's definitely in for a reality check.  I learned real quick that things don't always go as planned.  I wanted to breastfed so badly, and was never fully able to do that.  7 months later, I'm still pumping.  At least she's getting my milk, but like you said - it's a sore spot with me too, and I despise people that tell me I should have tried harder, etc. 
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  • Yep.  All that will kick her in the azz.  The NICU gave my kids a binky...not like I could nurse them when they didn't know how to suck/swallow anyways!  I didn't plan on having pre-e, but it happened! 

    And you can tell her that I pumped for three weeks (since I couldn't nurse) and I never made more than an ounce of milk.  So, I am one of those people, too.  And it still makes me said, so I feel your soreness there, too.   

     

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