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Make up your mind mister! VENT......
So MH is currently deployed with NG and when he comes home we're planning on buying our first house asap because I can't stand where we are now....and up until this week I was under the impression we were staying in DE and he was going back to his...I guess "original" unit and get a job through as a mechanic monday to friday....WELL....we got to talk for a bit yesterday and now all of a sudden moving to Salisbury,MD or somewhere in PA near FIG are options for him....now I understand and am totally ok with his desire to move out of DE because his MOS isn't offered here...but we had discussed atleast PA for months before he left and I thought we ruled it out and were sticking with staying in this state...and Salisbury is completely out of left field...Now I personally dont really have a preference to what state we live in as long as we stay on this coast so picking PA or MD or staying here isn't a big thing to me...its just the fact that I've been spending quite a bit of time looking into houses, schools, etc in this area and we had agreed the we should set up appts. to check out some schools and start talking to a realtor when he comes home on R&R to really get the ball rolling.....and now all of a sudden I have to add two more states to my searches...I love MH to death but sometimes I just want to shake him! =P
Re: Make up your mind mister! VENT......
He will probably change his mind 50 more times before the deployment is over. It's normal and I think everyone does it.
You may want to edit your OP to include proper punctuation and sentence structure. You will probably get more replies that way.
...there sure...are...a lot of elipses...here.
When I was deployed, my mind was so focused on day to day survival that the longer term plans (like reenlisting) took me much longer to process. I had a whole journal of pros and cons and mathematical equations.
Sorry thought this was a just a general post not something I was submitting to a gramar school. Planning out buying a home during this deployment was MH's idea...he has a lot of down time over there right now so this is what he's decided to focus his free time on and thats why I'm focissing on it here too...it's frustrating because I thought we were set and decided in our plans.
My H changes his mind DAILY (sometimes hourly) about what he wants to do about the military. Today? It was get out and move back to Vegas while he finishes his degree. He had a bad day. Three days ago? Get back, cross-train, finish degree and commission. Obviously he had a good day then.
I take it with a grain of salt while he's deployed. When your H gets home I think you guys will be able to sit down and talk while he'll be more level headed.
Why can't you wait until he gets home to decide where to live? Do you plan on moving before he gets back? Because that seems to be what you are hinting at.
I understand that you hate your current space, but you can suck it up for a year. Been there, done that. Buying a home without him here would be a very bad idea, IMHO. Even if he does have a lot of down time out there, the home buying process is very stressful. It isn't something that you should be adding to the already stressful time of deployment.
ETA: Sorry, I skipped a lot of your first post. And I still stand by my advice to wait until he is home for good.
Huh. I tuned out for lack of paragraphs.
No, it's not grammar school, but readability is still important if you want people to respond.