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Gift Question

A co-worker is getting married on Saturday and everyone in the department was invited (invitation on the bulletin board). The semi odd part of the whole thing is that they're already married and have a 2yr old. My understanding is they're Catholic and the church doesn't recognize their original marriage. So now they're doing everything just like it's the first time. 

So I just don't know what to do about a gift. They're already an established married couple so there's no registry. Do I just do a boring gift card? And would you do the same "level of gift" as a brand new married couple? 

DH says we should give them a Dave Ramsey book and be done with it. 

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Re: Gift Question

  • Since it's a group invite, could you and your co workers go in together and buy them a gift? 
  • i'll try and say this as nicely as possible, but... i'd be offended if someone gave me a dave ramsey book.  i mean on one hand, all gifts are to be accepted graciously but "congratulations, we think you need financial guidance" is kind of weird. 

     

    i think a group gift would be lovely, but if not, maybe an engraved vase, a picture frame, bottle of wine/champagne, or simply a card depending on how you feel.

    it would be cool if your group of coworkers could make up a little gift basket, maybe themed.   

  • A group gift would be nice, or like Jax said something personalized (we sent an album engraved with the wedding date for an older couple's second marriage).

    We were in a similar situation, married legally  by the JP but then did a Catholic ceremony later. We didn't register and got cash from almost every guest, another brought a local cookbook. We didn't actually expect gifts. However, it was a small family only wedding, we weren't posting the invite anywhere or inviting anyone we didn't know really well.

    -Clare
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    i'll try and say this as nicely as possible, but... i'd be offended if someone gave me a dave ramsey book.  i mean on one hand, all gifts are to be accepted graciously but "congratulations, we think you need financial guidance" is kind of weird.    

    And this is why DH isn't in charge of gift giving. Although we have given a DR book to a close friend, but we knew they were interested in the whole thing.

    I really like the gift basket idea - Thanks!!

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