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Since there are a crapton of Knocked Up Nesties right now, this seems appropriate to ask:
Thoughts on push presents? Did any of the Momma's out there receive one?
Mrs. JEGs
est 7.17.10
Hunter Fillmore
October 1, 2011
Re: Push Presents
When we had DS DH bought me a couple of gifts. One was a willow tree figurine of a momma and son. I thought it was sweet, but it wasn't necessarily a "push present" Then he also bought me flowers and a few other things, but it was our 3rd anniversary in the hospital.
I hate the term push present. I like that my husband wanted to celebrate/honor the birth of our child with some sort of symbol/gift. (vs. my "pushing" because technically I didn't push lol)
We'll see if he gets me another "push present" on Thursday. LOL
this is why i bought myself a ring for ds. it is cute and stackable so if/when we have more kiddos i will add to it. i like the idea of a mothers ring (band with birthstones of each kid) but i wanted something now since i am all about instant gratification, so i went the stackable route.
dh didn't get me a push present but he did get me a mothers day present (it was a week later and when ds got out of the nicu). with all of the drama around ds's birth dh had a plan for a present, it didn't work, and we decided to use the money to fly me and ds on a work trip with him instead.
My thoughts exactly.
#1 12.11.11
#2 10.23.13 EDD
I wholeheartedly agree with Shannon. This topic actually makes me pretty irate. I think it's the actual name "push present" that bothers me, for the reasons she said. Clearly I did not marry my husband for his gift giving abilities :-/
Ditto Shannon.
The only thing I got after the birth of both of my kids were a bunch of stitches each time. Oh and I got to take home a fun little water bottle so squirt water down there to keep the stitches clean.
This is the exact reason. I've known people that have specifically created a wish list at a jeweler or printed off what they wanted and handed it to their husband.
I told Mr.D I'd kill him if he dropped a couple hundred (or even thousand, like for jewelry) on a present when we are bringing a new baby home. But IF he were to give me something, I would want it only because he thought of it, not because I filled his head with ideas.
#1 12.11.11
#2 10.23.13 EDD
This. I too find push presents to be *okay* (good for the gals who get 'em), but nothing about demanding a gift from your DH is ok in my book. Wish lists, eeeeck. Sure, I'd love if my DH was thoughtful enough to get me flowers, a card, or something thoughtful but am I going to ask or expect it? No way.
The itouch saved my sanity in the early days of parenthood--I hope you enjoy it too. When I was bfing at night and alone, I used my free hand to write emails and blog posts, surf the internet, play games, and of course, check the nest! I seriously was a little sad when DD got older and playing around on the touch distracted her feeding so I had to stop. I also quelled many a frantic new parent nightmare by looking up conditions, behaviors, rashes etc on the touch.
We joke about this all the time in our house bc The Dude is so blown away by this concept. Pretty much agree with everyone else. If he thinks of something on his own, I totally won't say no to it but I won't be DEMANDING anything (despite my constant plea for another wedding band! ha).
When my mom had me, my dad wrote her a thank you note to his "costar" on another "stellar performance." I have that note tucked away and remind TD about it every so often. I'd be happy with that alone.
My little nuggets
Um, that's freaking adorable. See, I would kill for something like that. DH wrote an amazing note in the card he gave me the day of our wedding, and that piece of paper is more important to me than anything else he has ever given me.
DD: 6-24-11
EDD: 9-20-14