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DH has a motorcycle... prob. worth $7-$8k.
With baby on the way, that would make a great baby fund, or pay off one entire student loan.
Last year, we rode the bike on a few "longer" trips (more than just around town) until it stranded us on the side of the highway in PA and needed a new alternator. He fixed it over the winter.
We have not ridden this year AT ALL. I mean, DH rode it to work 5x between May and now. He took 2-3 hour-ish rides by himself. That's it. First, because his dad can no longer ride, and they always rode together, so he doesn't often ride alone. Second, because he was so busy.
Life is only going to get busier with a baby. His dad's bike is for sale. We don't have other friends to ride with in the area, and I don't love to ride for a long time. Around town or sightseeing is fine, but the PA trip about killed me... and once we went to Pigeon Forge and it was a nightmare.
So... who thinks he should sell the bike? I'm not opposed to a smaller (this is a HUGE Honda Goldwing touring bike) bike in the future, but we aren't getting use out of this one and we could use the $$.
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I voted SS. I think you should sell it if he's amenable to the idea.
I read an article just the other day about how men sometimes "freak out" a little when a baby's on the way, and try to get things out of their systems that they feel they won't be able to do when a baby is here.
If you force him to sell it when he's not ready, it may lead to resentment. I would recommend gently bringing it up and get a feel for it.
But, FWIW, ideally I would sell it.
My thoughts exactly. I definitely think selling it is the best thing for you guys, but you want to be careful not to make him feel like you're forcing him into it. My H has a project car that I really hope he sells before we start TTC, but I don't want to push him too much about it because I'm afraid it'll lead to resentment later.
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Well, it's really OUR bike, since it is our money that pays for the expenses, etc. We don't really separate stuff like that, hence why I feel like we need to have this conversation. I mean, it's HIS in that it is his hobby, not mine (though I participate on occasion)... but it is also a HUGE chunk of our money that went into it, and our joint money that keeps it insured and running, etc. It's not like I have anything in my life that is comparable. Does that make sense?
I totally understand that I can't pressure him to do it, but I was frustrated about money last night and I just needed some *stupid* justification that my reasoning makes sense. We have not really had this conversation yet, but in my head, the bike should already be listed for sale.
Regardless, I know the problem is that he feels like he should hang on to it for the sake of his dad, so it won't be easy for him to sell, ever. But I really want to AT LEAST discuss downgrading to a non-touring bike that he could ride casually. We don't need one to take cross-country trips, and really, that's what this currently bike is equipped to do.
I totally agree with you on this. I don't get the whole my money/ his money thing after you're married but that's just me. I voted sell it, but that's mostly because I really dislike motorcycles (I won't go into why... very tragic). If it was purely a money issue, I would maybe suggest waiting to see if you can swing it without selling the bike (if he's not thrilled about selling). If it comes down to it, you know that it's always an option. DH is like this with his eleventy billion guitars. He hardly ever has time to play and has a ton of money sunk into them. He wants to save them for the twins. If it comes down to it and we really need the money, though, he'll sell some.
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Anyway, I was trying to say that my DH bought himself a bike maybe 2 months before we got pregnant knowing that it wasn't a practical vehicle long term. He had a smaller bike when we met, sold that a few years ago, and had been wanting to replace it. He was open about the fact that part of his desire to buy one now was for it to be his last 'I'm being irresponsible" purchase. That being said, he drives it to work whenever possible which leads to gas savings over his truck - that is where the money for the insurance etc. comes from. He does recognize he'll have to use the truck more frequently come next spring/summer, but I think he also expects me to do 90% of the daycare drop off/pick up.
I don't agree with the purchase, but I understood where it was coming from. I think you can talk with your DH about it, but be careful. He may interpret it as "You have to give up your expensive hobbies b/c we're having a baby" and then want to know what you're giving up too. That is how my DH operates anyway. Good luck!