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I need strength...
I really really want a baby. DH does too but he isn't crazy obsessed like I am. We really can't swing it financially until DH is done paying $550 a month for his truck (done august '12) We really *can't* until then because I am going to stay home with the baby and not go back to work. And we have a trip in May to Orlando that would be really uncomfortable for me if I was pregnant, so we have to wait until after then.
DH's cousin is in town with her husband, they live in CO so we haven't seen them in two years. They didn't come to the wedding because she was pregnant with twins. We met the twins for the first time, they're 13 months and ADORABLE. We had a family party and the girls wouldn't go down for a nap. DH's cousin asked if anyone wanted to rock them to sleep so she could visit. SIL and I wanted to. They're so sweet and were making little grunty noises as they dozed off.
This weekend has not helped strengthened my resolve.
(Me, with the purple earrings, and SIL with the girls)
Re: I need strength...
I just read this... hah, we really ARE in the same boat LOL...
I totally understand your reasons. I just recently changed jobs, and DH is still working on his out of home business that has been stagnant. He is hoping to get a job at a local energy company in January, when the opening comes up. If he gets it, we will be in a much better spot, but I would not want to get pregnant till at least mid-next year. It's hardest on the days when I see my BM. She is totally the cutest preggo lady I have ever seen
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I feel you lex. I found out Friday that a girl I graduated with, who got married after us, is pregnant. I don't know why, but it hit me super hard. Like, I just started bawling my eyes out.
DH understands my feelings. We both would be happy having children now but can't swing it financially at all, no question. I hate hate hate when friends with children talk about 'There's no good time to have kids" like DH and I are the idiots for caring about finances. There's also that better than thou attitude because they popped out a kid and I haven't. Good job, gold star. Glad your life has meaning to it now. It seriously makes my blood boil.
I know in the end that we are going to be such better parents to our children because we really took the time to prepare for them. DH and I don't need to be making anywhere near 6 figures, but we know an estimate of what children cost and the kind of lifestyle we want to give our kids. That's so important to us that we give our child every opportunity in the world and we just can't do that right now.
We want to be parents so much that we would wait forever for our children. That's more than a lot of the people I know can say.
Do the creep.
Keep holding out!!! You can dooooo it!
Honestly, try and enjoy these months before TTC, because once you have kids, that's it; you have kids! It will never be just you and DH in the house again until the children are grown and set, and hearing from people with children, sometimes you will miss the moments when it was just the two of you. Savor them!
You should appreciate this current phase in your life, and allow yourself to do the little things you won't be able to do once you have a baby, you know?
And you'll be far less stressed financially if you behave and wait til the truck is paid off! :-)
And if you're that baby gaga, and can't stand it, go volunteer at a nursery in a hospital. You can literally just hold infants for a couple of hours on your shift. That ought to satiate you a bit!
I totally feel you...this past year has been all about watching other people get pregnant, whether they wanted to be or not...DH and I have been trying since the wedding (13 months now, no luck...) and are into the fertility testing and seeing specialists. The 2 other girls from work that got married recently - one a week before us and the other on new year's day - have their babies (well, the new year's one is due in Dec)...so I get the yearning, it hurts.
I don't have any words or advice because I feel annoyed when people tell me/us to 'just hang in there' or 'try not to think about it' - if it were really that easy, then don't they think I wouldn't be thinking about it?!
Good luck with the process - we're here if you need us to vent on!! xo
Hey Lex,
I hear you on those feelings, I had them before the wedding and until I got pregnant. I love your new ticker! Be strong!!! And enjoy loving on other babies.