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Second+ time moms ?
Where was LO when you went into labor with the new baby? Where was LO while you were in the hospital? Did your H stay with you and the new baby in the hospital or did he go home and stay with the older LO?
If you are pregnant, what is your plan?
My plan for now is to have MIL take Alex when labor starts getting going and to keep her away from the hospital until after baby is born and we're both ready to see Alex. I don't think Alex needs to see me in pain and question that, also I know I had quite a few choice words I'd rather Alex didn't repeat at the Christmas party should she be home and overhear them. This is also the plan because MIL drove me (and those waiting in the waiting room) crazy while I was in labor, so it will give her a job but still keep her far far away from me.
I'm curious about what happens after the birth though. Since things didn't go smoothly the first time around, I'm not sure how I'd feel about being in the hospital with just LO and me. Would I want H there, would I want him home to keep things as normal as possible for Alex? This is the confusing part to me.
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If everything goes as planned here is what we're doing.
My c-section is scheduled for a Monday. My mom is flying into town on Saturday (this will give her a couple of days with Marshall for him to warm up to her again since he won't have seen her since July). We have to report for the c-section at like 5:30 in the morning. Mom will stay here with Marshall and he will have a normal morning. We'll call my mom when we're out of recovery and she'll bring Marshall to the hospital to meet his new little sister.
I hadn't really thought much about if Sam would stay at the hospital with me at night or go home to be with Marshall, we may have to see how that goes.
If I happen to go into labor before my c-section and before my mom gets here I'm not real sure what is going to happen and the thought of that happening makes me a little anxious. Our previous plan would have been for SIL to take him...but since she is no longer living here that won't work!
Our plan right now is for my mom to come over when I go into labor to help with Taryn. Depending on how far apart my contractions are at the time, DH and I will head to the hospital, or I'll try to labor in my bedroom away from Taryn.
I want DH to stay with me in the hospital. He wants to stay home with Taryn. I'm not sure what we'll do. I guess we'll decide when the time comes.
Originally, we were going to have Taryn stay at my moms, but we've got her into a good routine now and I'm afraid that if she stays at my parents, it'll blow that. I told my mom that if DH stays with me at the hospital, that I'd rather her stay at our house with Taryn and stick to the routine. If she's not willing or able (such as having to take my 12 y.o. sister to school in the morning) then DH will just go home at night.
Whatever happens, one thing I will avoid is MIL watching Taryn, especially since FIL says he's going to come and visit in Oct/Nov and refuses to get a flu shot, even though we'll have a newborn at the peak of flu season...
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I had a scheduled c/s so it was a lot easier for me. Abby stayed at MILs the night before and then MIL took her to daycare where she stayed until 4pm when MIL went to pick her up. MIL then brought Abby to the hospital to meet the babies and see us. Abby refused to come near me! She was scared of everything I was hooked up to. She got better and came a little closer to me each day and loved hanging out with me once I was unhooked from everything.
DH stayed with me all 5 days at the hospital. My mom and grandma were staying at my house, so this is what happened every day (it was also all during weekdays so Abby was at daycare during the day):
6:30pm - DH, my mom and gma would go back to our house and he would put Abby to bed. Then DH would come back to the hospital and stay with me.
7am - Abby would wake up and my mom and gma would get her ready for school (they packed her lunch, dressed her, etc)
8am - MIL would come and pick Abby up and take her to daycare
4pm - MIL would pick up Abby and bring her to the hospital to see us
6pm - DH, my mom, and gma would go back home with Abby.
They did that on Tue, Wed, Thur, and Friday. Then Saturday my MIL took Abby since my mom and gma were leaving and we were getting discharged. Everything worked out great and I left my mom, gma, and MIL a page of detailed instructions for Abby...lol Having her in daycare full time really helped, otherwise someone would have had to stay at the house and watch her all day cause she would get bored at the hospital after about 45 min.
I did not want to be alone with the babies! There was always someone with me at some point. When DH would take Abby home my MIL would stay and hang out until he got back. During the day when my mom and gma were visiting DH would go home, shower, and etc. Everything worked out really well so I was never alone.
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I loved having DH with me after having Taryn, which is why I want him there this time. He was able to help with her--changing some diapers, handing her to me from the bassinet, etc.
However, I know this time is different having Taryn. Like I said, I want to keep her in her routine as much as possible, and if that means DH staying with her at home at night and me alone at the hospital...then that's what'll happen.
I don't have more than one kid I just had to say I can't believe you were all *allowed* to have DH stay in the Hospital - I'm jealous! The only way it was allowed was in you had a private room (and paid $$$ for it). If you were in a shared room it's not allowed. Sniff.
When my water broke my mom came over to stay with Noah (it happened at like 4am). Since nothing else labor wise was going on, Noah went to daycare for his 1/2 day and my mom picked him up and brought him home and put him down for a nap. My dad then kept an ear out for him (he works out back of our house, where their business is) while my mom ran up to the hospital to see how things were going (still nothing). Then she came back and picked Noah up and brought him to her house. When my dad got home from work (about 530pm) he watched Noah while my mom went back up to the hospital where she stayed until i had Peyton (10:04pm).
My parents kept Noah at their house so my DH could stay at the hospital with me. It didnt really bother noah because he is so used to staying at my parents house. He did go to daycare an extra day.
We were released from the hospital in time for us to pick Noah up from daycare and he was so excited.
My hospital only has private rooms... no shared rooms and they have a chair that turns into a bed for DHs.
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Same here. You have separate private rooms on one side of L&D where you deliver the baby and then you have private rooms on the other side where you stay postpartum. It's very nice. I don't know what I would have done if DH wouldn't have been able to stay with me at the hospital, especially after having Kellen. I could barely get out of bed by myself the first day or two after I had him.
Since I'm having a planned c/s, we've arranged for my ILs to stay at our house with Kodi while I'm in the hospital. I'm not sure if DH will stay overnight at the hospital or not. Depending on how I feel, it might be kind of nice to stay at the hospital by myself and bond with the baby.
If I go into labor before my c/s date and before the ILs arrive, I guess I'll be going to the hospital by myself so DH can stay with Kodi.
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