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WWYD: left off the invite list? (long)
a friend of mine had their engagement party this weekend....h and i were left off the invite list. we're pretty sure it was a mistake, but me being me--am uneasy with it........we couldn't go anyways (we were in nyc), so we thought *maybe* that was why we were left off, but a few other people were also left off, that we found strange.
-h and i are both friends with both groom and bride
-they called to tell us they were engaged before it was facebook public
-we're in a very "distinct" group of friends... the same core people hang out every time we're together
-we're invited to just about every one of the couples' normal functions, big or small
we didn't even know about the party until last week weds, someone texted me and asked if we were going....she said that someone else (part of core group) was also left off the list, and people were confused.
the party was held/hosted by grooms mom. h and i never met grooms mom, but neither had the person who texted me/was invited. someone else who was left off the list, *has* met grooms mom.
h and i are the newest "members" of the core group...they've all known each other for about 4 years, we've only known them for 1.5 yrs, but we still all hang out every single time.
would you bring it up with b&g?
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Re: WWYD: left off the invite list? (long)
Nope, it's their party and they probably had a reason for not inviting you and whoever else.
IMO, at this point, bringing it up would make it potentially uncomfortable for them.
And, it's a wedding event, not a bbq.
I wouldn't bring it up with B&G. I would be hurt not being invited, but to me invitations are just not something you bring up, it seems tacky/rude to me. B and/or G should bring up the event and (I would assume) they will mention why G's mom sucks and only let them invite XX# of guests and they are so sorry they couldn't invite you. Or they might be douche bags and not mention the event.
Group dynamics are hard, and once weddings invites/BIG events come into play things can get tricky. H and I were recently left off of an invite list, and it sucks when you thought you were great friends before the event. I hope your friends aren't douchey in the future!
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And, sorry if my post came off harsh. (It's the bad mood, I swear!)
And not saying that you're doing this, but it really bothers me when people feel entitled to be invited to a wedding, be in the wedding party, attend wedding related events, etc...
Weddings are fvcking expensive and it makes me angry when people start whining that they don't get invited.
that is weird..
what does h think?
h thinks we were left off by mistake too. we are actually pretty close with the couple...h was actually the first few people that knew groom was going to propose. groom asks h for a lot of advice, since to them, we are the "ideal couple" (not my words).
h wanted me to ask TN....since TN knows all
♥ bfp1 06/14/2011 ♥ edd 02/22/2012 ♥
♥ baby jennlin born on 02/15/2012 ♥
who says you can only wear your wedding dress once?
honeymoon bio ♥ married bio ♥ planning bio
jumped ship to the new and improved nest. back to TB for baby boards.
I can totally understand why you're hurt to not be invited. Seems AWFULLY weird considering a) you're part of the core group and EVEN more b) that they called you personally to tell you rather than letting you find out via general FB announcement. I'm going to throw them a bone and say perhaps they didn't send you one because they knew you'd be out of town (even though I personally say you should ALWAYS send an invite to someone even when you know they can't make it, so that THEY know they were included.)
You can't bring it up though. However, IF they bring up wedding stuff, especially the party TO you, then you can definitely mention it casually.
they were e-vites, so invites didn't cost money. the other people that weren't invited could go, and were in town.
♥ bfp1 06/14/2011 ♥ edd 02/22/2012 ♥
♥ baby jennlin born on 02/15/2012 ♥
who says you can only wear your wedding dress once?
honeymoon bio ♥ married bio ♥ planning bio
jumped ship to the new and improved nest. back to TB for baby boards.