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In law rants here
Remember me posting a couple weeks ago about birthday party for 1 year old niece (SIL can't pay anything for it, so MIL and Aunt-in-law are having it and paying for everything) and MIL and SIL getting in a tizzy b/c cousin wants to have housewarming party same day but 4 hours later?? Most of you agreed that 4 hours would be more than plenty of time for a 1 year old b-day party and that it was more polite to have them on the same day for the out of town/out of state family members.
Well, the invites have now gone out for both parties. The housewarming one just went out yesterday. MIL was the first to RSVP (it's an evite, so all can see) and her response was NO. (I forgot to also mention that this is her godson's housewarming party and she is alway ranting to me about how family is so important). I talked to cousin (the wife) and she said that MIL and SIL are boycotting the housewarming party even though it's on their way home from the b-day party and could technically stop in for a couple minutes to wish them well. I'm highly annoyed about this after all the rants MIL has given me about family. But J and I are going to both parties and even though we live in same town as the b-day party, I'm not going to be spending 4 hours at a 1 year old's b-day party. i'm thinking 2 hours tops.
Anyone else have any rants they would like to get out there??
Re: In law rants here
What lame-o's! You're seriously boycotting the housewarming because it was planned on the same day?!?! REALLY? Like you said in your earlier post, it's so much easier for all of the family and friends that are travelling for both parties. That is just immature and selfish. Well at least now the housewarming party can be drama free and more fun
Sorry if you feel like a human punching bag having to listen to MIL's rants.
I currently don't have any MIL rants, but Richard's mom is not one of my favorite people. She and Rich's dad were never married. She gave birth to him and abandoned him and his gma raised him. His mom then found another man and had three kids with him. We were dating since we were 16 and I didn't meet his mom until I was in my 20's.
She called us about 3 weeks ago saying that it was urgent. The father of his half sibling was really sick and dying. She wanted me to have him call her because his sibblings "needed all the support" they could get. I felt sorry that they were losing their father, I don't know what I would do if I lost my father, but I am not sure what she expected from Rich. He barely knows his siblings. He has seen them less than 10 times. Where was she when his grandmother passed and he needed support? Where was she when he needed support growing up? Where was she when his dad passed away and he needed support?
Edit: I hope I didn't come across as a horrible witch. My gripe is not with the siblings, and I am sorry about their father.
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FIL is obsessed with gerren. OBSESSED. He wants to be in his/our lives in any way possible. If he ruled the world, Gerren and I would move in with him and MIL and never leave.
So with all of this car stuff going on, he is totally controlling. I know he is trying to be nice and helpful. But I left my name and number with the car place for them to call me with questions and updates. You do not need to GO THERE ON YOUR OWN and find out what is going on and then make decisions based on what you THINK i would do. You have no idea of my finances (we are better off than you think, I do not need you to pay for my car to be fixed).
End rant.
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WOW!!! That is crossing a line in my book. Gold star to you for putting up with that. It's nice that he cares that much, but annoying none the less.
Because the baby shower was co-ed, my BFF and sister only did one game, a 'which baby was this' trivia thing. H was joking last night about our mothers being competitive, but I think it was all MIL.
It went like this:
Which baby was content to be read to from an early age? Mush's H. Several people said they were surprised and thought that would be me, since I LOVE to read. My mom said no, Mush only liked to read to herself. H says my mom "started it" and was being competitive. Ummmm, she was answering a question.
Which baby started speaking in sentences at 9 months? Mush. MIL says, so did Mush's H. SIGH.
Totally agree! Butt out, Shauni's FIL!
I don't think you're a witch at all. I haven't seen my dad in 25 years. I have 2 half siblings that I don't know. There was some communication (letters) with me and my dad when I graduated college but then I ended it b/c he was an arse.
I would be annoyed in your situation as well. His mom needs to realize that he's not a part of their family as she seems to think he is.
I'm okay with my MIL at the moment. I actually, voluntarily, called her over the weekend and we talked for an hour. I was even shocked. However, I called to set the record straight about our wedding and FSIL who's STILL upset about BIL being behind another GM. But, after the BM (which was J's dad) I went by height. That's what I've always been told and that's how I did my BM after my MOHs. So BIL was last in line. I felt bad but not my fault you're tall.
So we all know about the money shower FSIL/BIL had. Well, we got an invite but I sent her a text letting her know we wouldn't be there and she responded with "No worries. It's for family anyway." Okay, whatever. I didn't respond. Well, supposedly, she said that bc she wasn't in the family pic at our wedding and she didn't sit with family. Someone please explain to this dumbass that the parents and grandparents have reserved seating and the rest is free for all. And I'm sorry, I didn't individually call everyone up to stand in the pic on J's side. I was a little preoccupied that day, but who isn't smart enough to walk up there and stand next to her FI?
That is all. Sorry I rambled so much.
I agree with this 100%.
Exactly! I couldn't imagine my in-laws ever butting in like that but it'd be super annoying! The only thing my MIL does in regards to money is tell everyone how I much I (don't) make an hour. Last I heard it was $60 something/hour.
Wow all of these rants are justified. Just...wow. I would flip if FIL took it on himself to visit our mechanic and make any decisions for us; I get annoyed enough at the way he interferes now (taking our car to get washed, or an oil change while we're visiting) without asking - thank goodness he doesn't live close enough to make it a real issue!
As for the housewarming/bday situation, I completely agree with whoever said that it's probably better that MIL declined the housewarming, because that means there will be less drama there. Yeesh.
Jeff's family has been relatively sane lately. I have had issues with them butting in where they don't belong, and gossiping about stupid stuff (like how much money we make) but I haven't heard anything lately. I think my biggest issue is that Jeff continues to tell them things that I think he shouldn't - they tend to overreact over every.little.thing, so I prefer not to tell them about small issues because they'll just worry, blow it out of proportion, offer to get involved, etc. However, Jeff is very close to his family so he tells them lots of his day-to-day issues, and they continue to make a huge deal out of things, which drives me crazy and causes me quite a bit of stress. It doesn't seem to bother him, but it bothers ME! And when I say, "Maybe you shouldn't have told your parents about such-and-such" he just tells me he doesn't think it's a big deal. sigh.
Yesterday FIL had to pick up G from work to bring him home (since we were sharing one car. I dropped G off, his dad was going to pick him up for us. Super nice.) Once he dropped G off at our house, G and I were going to pick up my car at the shop and drop G's off (it still had not been dropped off to be fixed, we were waiting until one car was fixed before bringing over the other one). FIL said I should just stay home and he would go with G to drop off his truck and then pick up my car. Again, I know it is nice to offer, but we are adults and we can handle this all on our own. He was not offering to be nice, but instead he was offering so he could have more of a part of this situation. The last thing he said to G when he dropped him off yesterday was "make sure the guys at the shop call me to tell me what is going on with your car tomorrow." Oh HELLS NO.
Also, every time we give FIL a gift, such as Christmas, father's day, birthdays, etc., and we ask what he wants, all he says is "I just want my kids here. I just want my baby back." And we respond with "Um, hello, we have been back over a year. We are still here." and he just smiles and says "im so glad you are back, I just want you to be here." We live a mile away. He says it because he is trying to encourage us to stay a mile away for the rest of our lives. HELL NO. Not even 10 miles. Not even 50. Same state maybe. And I think it will kill him when we do move.
Furthermore, if he cannot reach Gerren for a couple of days, he will start calling and texting me. "Where is the kid?" "Can you have G call me?"
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I *sometimes* get this way about Gerren, even about the river part! Usually though it is if he is an hour or more late and I have not heard from him and he doesn't answer his phone, etc. He drives this one road home from work that is a dirt road and I know he speeds on it and it is RIGHT next to the river (like parallel to it). Shauni = FREAK.
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Don't get me wrong, I can get this way too, but it's because during the day we are in pretty much constant communication. So I freak out if I know he left (or he SAYS he left) and he's not home an hour late, since it should only take 30 min, especially if traffic is bad. Or if he's fishing or something. But he talks to his mom once a day, so it's a little different - she just doesn't understand that he can't always answer his phone, sometimes for hours at a time, and it's not like she knows what he's up to and has expectations (like I do when I know he should be home/at work/whatever). Does that make sense?
not only does this make sense, but it is 100% logical! and describes me to a T
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Mary - oh F U MIL and SIL for boycotting a party. It's so out of town family can do both things. LAME and RUDE.
Shauni - oh no he effing did not go to the car fixing place himself! Are you kidding me?
I have not spoken to my inlaws in a while, so that is awesome. Psycho SIL made Labor Day weekend super uncomfortable and it was awful.
this!
I don't have much to rant about. But DH and I believe that his dad, is either afraid of our dog or doesn't like her because she's an American Staffordshire Terrier (aka categorized under pit bull). Sometimes we bring her over to their house when we stop by to visit, but that's just because we've both been gone all day and don't want to leave her behind for another hour or two after we get home from work. He never pets her (MIL does and pays attention to our dog). He even mentioned that we think about what we should do with the dog in the event that we have a kid or kids...um, we're keeping her.MIL and FIL have a smaller dog, half beagle/half dacshund.
MIL isn't a saint either, she sees her fair share of bad/irresponsible pet owners with her job since she works at a vet hospital but we both feel they are under-educated about it. Two of my cousins have 2 pitties and toddlers and nothing has happened with them. We would never leave a child unattended near a dog, doesn't matter what breed or how well behaved they are. And when we do have kids and they are old enough to walk we'll set boundaries with petting, especially when the dog is asleep. When I was little, I got bit an uncle's cocker spaniel for crying out loud.
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