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Finally had "The Talk"
Sorry, I've been super MIA lately (most of you probably don't even know/remember me, lol) but things have been kinda crazy and I haven't had as much free time to hit up The Nest as I have in the past. Fun side note though, I now work with Parenting magazine, so I should start picking up some helpful hints for the future 
Anyways, on to my point! DH and I have had some casual chats about kids this past year (ever since we were hit with baby fever after my adorable neice was born), but we'd never really nailed down what our plans were up to this point. This past weekend though we finally had "The Talk" and have decided that we're going to start getting things in place to have a kid sometime next year! I can't really tell anyone about it yet, but I was too excited/freaked out not to get it off my chest!
We're waiting to start trying until after November, which is when I can change my insurance policy to the better coverage option that my company offers. I figure I should get off my birth control about a month before we start trying (at least that's what I've read), which means that I'll be stopping after my next pack of pills runs out (the last week of October). I told DH this last night, but it hadn't hit me until a few hours ago that October is next month! Now I'm kind of freaking out a bit since it seems like it's right around the corner. We don't really have any reason to delay starting a family and it's not like I don't want kids, I just think that I'm a little scared about actually being a mom in reality (and not just in my head). I also have this completely unfounded fear that I'm not going to be able to get pregnant, so that's got me a little freaked too. I mean, I knew we were going to have kids eventually and I was excited thinking about it, but now that we actually have a concrete timeline it's a bit of a reality check. Am I being totally ridiculous or is this kind of reaction normal?
Re: Finally had "The Talk"
Lesser people have become great mothers, so don't worry. You can do it.
Also, you may want to hold off on the ending BCP if you are switching insurance and OBGYN shopping. Of course you can always switch, but it might be easier to find someone you like first.
Aw, thanks! Geeze, I didn't even think about the OBGYN thing. I won't be switching insurance companies, just moving to a higher coverage (and higher rate) plan in anticipation of pregancy costs. I have an OBGYN now, but I've only really used her for my annual and my BCP prescriptions. I have no idea if I should stick with her or not though, lol. I don't even really know what all goes into all that! Do I just show up at her office and say "I'm pregnant/trying to get pregnant!". Color me clueless.
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I think it is totally normal to feel like you do! I remember when we had the talk I was very excited/nervous. GL to you that everything works out the way you have it planned!
No I think it's totally normal to have all of those feelings! I also was convinced I would have trouble TTC since all the girls in my family did and it seemed like everyone I knew was having issues. Then I get KU'd on the first try with twins..go figure! So you never know what can happen!!
Congratulations! It's totally normal! I still have freak outs about being a mom from time to time, I think everyone does. Good luck and keep us posted!
Dude, my kid is 3.5 and I still freak out about being a mom. I probably will until, well, forever. Its so normal.
And I agree with Nicole, figure out which hospital you want to go to, then research Drs from there. And make sure you know the ins and outs of your insurance, especially when it comes to adding the baby. Trust me, if you don't it can be a nightmare.
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We only have one hospital here that does deliveries, so that isn't an issue for me. But I would think that you'd want to find a doctor that you like, then see where he delivers and make sure it's somewhere you're happy with.
Actually, I never looked. I figured I could drop a baby any day, any time, at any location. With a 40 mile commute to work and back home 40 miles, I knew I could end up with whatever random OB catching my kid.
Also, I was not TTC and got KU, so there was zero pre-planning.