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annoyed
my husband went out fishing this morning around 4am and he's still out on the boat - it's 3:30pm. we had plans to go to my parents house tonight for a birthday dinner for my dad. i had told him yesterday that if he didn't go, it wouldn't be that big of a deal b/c he was busy with work and stuff. i told him that when he had told me he would only be out fishing for the morning, not the whole day. now this afternoon when i spoke with him, i was immediatly annoyed that he was still fishing and would still need to work when he got home. had he only been out for the morning, he would have got his work done and would have been able to go to my parents' with me. grr. i even tried to lie to my mom about him being too busy but then i told her the truth. i hate covering for him b/c i always end up feeling like the a-hole when really he should be feeling like the a-hole. my mom even said they like him so much and he doesn't even come down for dinner. i apologized but it doesn't mean much from me. i sent him an email letting him know how disappointed my mom was. the sucky part is that i'll have to lie tonight and just say he's working to avoid any questioning/judging from my sisters and their husbands. UGH!!!
and, i'm NOT bringing him leftovers. SO THERE!
thanks. vent over.
Re: annoyed
Hold up, you told him that it didn't matter that he didn't go, but now that he's not going it matters and you're mad....totally something I would say/do! In all honesty it's probably why he is out fishing all day - men don't separate the reason why you told him it would be okay if he didn't go. He just heard that it would be okay if he didn't go.
Hope it didn't cause a huge fight between you two!
You're probably right Kare. Whatevers I guess. He started to throw daggers when we talked about it. I wasn't even "angry" with him, just upset he wasn't going and all. I even told him that.
He apologized as soon as I walked in the door last night. It's always easier to just apologize later after you've done what you shouldn't have done anyway.
Thankfully no big argument here. Just another evening of disagreeing!
I would something similar too. Its hard to remember that their brains are not as sophisticated at picking up these small nuances as ours are! LOL
Seriously though I'd be annoyed. Ok to miss family dinner for work not ok b/c your drowning worms all day.