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Vent: Regarding Doctor *Sorry, this got long*
I know I have posted on here before about my irritation with my doctor's office before. It has always been spread out and irritating but nothing that would push me over the edge, but now I am to the point that I don't know what to do anymore.
First of all, I was not impressed at all with how they handled my miscarriage. DH and I went in for an ultrasound and the tech was pointing things out on the screen, then she quit talking and finished up. She said she needed to go discuss something with the doctor and would be right back. (I understand the ultrasound tech can't say anything, so I am not irritated about that.) Obviously, DH and I knew something was wrong. She came back and took us to a room and told us the doctor would be in shortly. We waited for over 20 minutes in the room, then heard the doctor in the hallway outside talking and laughing with a nurse. We waited another 10+ minutes while the doctor stood outside the door to our room chatting and laughing with a nurse about their weekend plans. At this point we had not been told anything and were both really upset.
Finally the doctor comes in, sits down, and says "Well, it could be that you are earlier than we thought, so don't freak out. I want to run your blood numbers to be sure." then gets up to leave. I was like "Wait, what are you talking about? Was there something wrong with the ultrasound?" and he responds "Oh, yeah, uh we didn't see anything. So either you are miscarrying or you are earlier than we thought. Follow me to get bloodwork done." That was all he said and I didn't feel like he handled it very well.
The next day, I waited and waited for a call. Finally I called them and requested the results. The doctor called back and said, Sorry your numbers were low, come back in a week to check them again. Your miscarriage should start any day.
So, I wait a week and go in on a Wednesday. They take my blood and I go on my way. That Friday they call back and say my numbers are < 5 but still not at 0 so they want me to come back in for more bloodwork on the next Thursday (tomorrow) and they will go ahead and set me up with an appointment so I can talk to the PA (who I have been mostly dealing with, not the doctor) about when I can start Clomid again, ect. So I say fine.
Later that Friday, they call me back and ask me my blood type. I tell them I am not positive, but I think it is O-. DH's is A+. So they say they need me in ASAP, by Monday to take my blood and get see my blood type because I might need a shot. It cannot wait till Thursday. When I get off the phone, I look up this shot they are talking about and it is the RH shot, that they should have administered within 72 hours of my miscarriage starting. Administering it now does nothing.
I am irritated because I feel like they should have taken my blood type down at the beginning of all this or one of the subsequent 50 million times they have taken my blood since then. Also, they apparently dropped the ball on this shot, so now at my appointment tomorrow I am going to have to find out the possible repercussions of that.
Basically the only reason why I haven't switched doctors yet is because all of the testing we have had done thus far has been completely out of pocket. I am afraid if we switch doctors now, the new doctor will want to repeat all of these tests.
I feel like my choices are the following.
A. Stay with a doctor I don't like, but a PA that I do like. Continue on with my treatment path and be uncomfortable with the Dr. who will be delivering me once I finally get to that point.
B. Stay with this doctor until I get pregnant, then shop around for a new Dr. to deliver me.
C. Start over with a new doctor now.
I am just so frustrated by this whole situation. Sorry this got so long, any advice or thoughts would be welcome.
Re: Vent: Regarding Doctor *Sorry, this got long*
Ugh, I'm sorry for you. That's frustrating.
If I were you, I would start over with a new doctor. Thing is, you should find a doctor AND a PA that you like. I would not settle for not liking the doctor-especially OBGYN... because you will spend a lot of time with that person. I would ask around to friends for recommendations of places to check out.
Sorry you're having to deal with this. What kind of a work up did you get (b/w, HSG, etc) before starting Clomid? Typing your blood should've been done @ the beginning to determine basic stuff like Rh issues. Also, if they didn't see anything on the u/s & it was before 6 weeks, that's actually normal. Some bigger women (like me, though I've never been pregnant) aren't able to get a good u/s until 8 weeks. They should at least have done several repeat betas to check for proper doubling or if there was an issue with progesterone levels that would be solves sith supplements.
Are you seeing an RE @ this point? If so, this RE has no clue. RUN.
If this is your regular OB/GYN, you need to see a specialist. Again, RUN.
()hugs))
I have been feeling like this more and more...I guess I need to start looking around.
I know you are right, I don't even like the nurses. I like the PA and the blood tech. I just hate to change in the middle, but I guess it is my best option.
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However, after seeing that most of the tests were blood tests (instead of more invasive and expensive ones like an HSG) I'd probably bite the bullet and leave now. I would 100% make sure to bring your records to your new doc and also be honest with them and tell them that you'd rather not repeat any tests unless totally necessary b/c you're paying OOP, etc.
I am so sorry you are going through all of this. Having a miscarriage is hard enough physically and emotionally, dealing with a crappy doctor is really just unfair. I actually read a statistic somewhere about the number of people who switch doctor's after having a miscarriage. It was extremely high and I really think it has to do with some of the insensitiveness that doctors put out in terms of what people go through. I am sure for them it happens all the time, but it doesn't happen to us all the time and it's scary and awful.
I would be extremely upset about the negligence of the shot issue. And just the lack of response to your needs
I agree with other people, I would do some calling around and find out what other doctor's say. Find someone who will listen to you and your needs. And see if you can avoid all the tests again, surely they can just get your medical records.
((hugs)) Again, I am sorry you have to deal with this.
I fall in the above statistic that Brooke mentioned. I had a very similar situation to you, Sarah, when I had my miscarriage. It was absolutely horrible- the doctor and technician were so insensitive, blase and I couldn't leave that practice fast enough.
I am so sorry that you are dealing with this! I hope that you are able to find a new doctor or practice that will listen to you and actually care about their patients and their needs. I agree with pp's that you should be able to get your medical records transferred.
Big hugs to you.
On behalf of the medical profession, I apologize for him being such an a$$hole. No body should be treated like you were. I too agree, RUN, and run fast. Sign a release of medical information and let them fax your results to your new doctor.
I wish you didn't have to go through this.
I definitely agree with the other ladies... it's definitely worth calling around & seeing if other offices will accept your current test results & move on from there. I know I'd have a tough time working with someone that insensitive & would be out of there as fast as possible.
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