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Would this upset you?
I have always bought gifts or cards for whom ever is getting married, having a baby (even 2nd and 3rd children), funerals, etc for work people.
Not one person sent a card from work when I had Ian, I got one e-mail congrats from a co-worker (maybe they don't like me?). I work with 4 other women and lots of guys, all of which have seen me several times ask for donations on events for other co-workers.
Would this upset you?
It irks me a little that a card and plant was sent for FIL's funeral and now someone is asking for donations for a co-workers wedding, but not even a card or e-mail was sent congratulating dh and I on Ian's birth. I've been with the company for over 10-years. Maybe I am making too much of a deal out of this.. .. ..
Re: Would this upset you?
Did they do anything when E was born?
A few (sucky) things I've learned recently:
* You (general "you") can't expect others to do for you what you (would) do for them.
* Second (3rd, 4th, etc.) children are not as big of a deal to other people as first kids.
I'm sorry, S. I, too, would feel disappointed.
The same thing happened with me too. Its hard not to be bothered but honestly theres not much that can be done without it looking bad.
Lily wasn't celebrated at all by my former employer at all. I even got the boot while pregnant with her and went shopping for one of the other teachers who got married this summer. I was green with jealousy especially given that I was laid off at the end of the year and still no one said a darn thing.
If you're buying cards, etc on your own for co-workers as a nice thing to do (which it is) then I wouldn't be upset about not getting anything, your just the better person.
If someone in your office is actually going out and buying the cards gifts for everyone else for births/deaths/etc., and asking the rest of the office to contribute, and they didn't do the same for you, then yes, that would be a little upsetting to me.
Regardless, I think you need a new job girl! I've said it before, but you're too nice for that place!!!!
Yep. This is what we do. Yep, need new job, just scared to look.
I guess I am more mad about one girl here in the office has had several children and we've all gotten together and gotten her something on each child.
Oh well. Just wanted to see thoughts on this. Thanks!
I agree 100% with all of this....
They take it for granted that you are the one who organizes everything. They forgot about you because you weren't there to remind them to parcitipate.
love is for every her, love is for every him, love is for everyone
edited to add- that yes, I usually do the buying then asking or sometimes the manager of the person does if it's outside my area.
You have the talent. Get your name out there and look for a new job where you are appreciated. Looking will not hurt a thing.
GOOD LUCK!!! You can doooooo it!
and PS yes, I'd be bummed
Exactly
I'd be bummed, even if it's just "the nice thing" to do - it'd be nice to be recognized that (a) you had Ian and (b) you are the one who cares about everybody in your company!
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Yeah, it sucks, but it seems like most offices are more focused on the "loss" of production that is brought on by a baby/maternity leave, than acutally making sure their employees are happy and feel validated by their office.
As much as I would like to think that I wouldn't be upset....I would.
You know what we do around here.....would our Architecture side have anything for you? Shoot me an email from your home account (I can only find your work account right now) I might be able to help you get in touch with the right people.
J- I am still trying to convince my DH to get in touch with you as well.
agreed. Don't blame you for feeling a little wounded about it, not in the slightest. Gotta let it go, though, sounds like the co-workers are just a little thoughtless unless you are there to help them out.