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F/U: Dealing with a difficult neighbor (selling) Long
A couple of months ago I'd posted about a former neighbor sabotaging a potential offer on our house:
http://community.thenest.com/cs/ks/forums/thread/56690805.aspx
After this incident, DH spoke to him calmly, he apologized, and they came to a mutual agreement. We've advised him of all showings, and he agreed to contact us first with any concerns on the parking (vs. approaching the agents/buyers).
Fast forward to yesterday- 2 months later. We accepted an offer on Saturday (yay!), inspection was yesterday (we advised neighbor ahead of time), and he called DH in an explosive rage, claiming someone was blocking him from pulling his gigantic truck all the way in the back.
Luckily it was our realtor's car (which wasn't blocking anything as it turns out- she is very aware of the sensitive situation), DH was able to call her and she snuck out of the inspection. However, buyer's father was on the front porch with buyer's baby during the time she was moving her vehicle. Instead of leaving it at that, Crazy Neighbor proceeded to yell at her claiming she didn't respect his property, blah blah. I think he's deep down resentful of change and has deeper issues going on.
Our realtor did a good job of diffusing the situation, and I am thankful he at least called us first, but if that father heard any of this from the porch, I'm terrified the buyers will rethink their options and back out of the deal. Again.
I am at my wits end right now. He's irrational and verbally abusive, even to DH on the phone, and now our realtor. He's never been anything but kind to me/us for over 10 years. He has had some rough personal times the last couple of years and I honestly believe he needs therapy or medication, or both. But right now all I can do is stress out until we get this inspection signoff.
Re: F/U: Dealing with a difficult neighbor (selling) Long
Believe me, if we could we would. But in this market, we chose to be as flexible as possible for showings vs. restricting them to daytime only (he works an early day schedule, so really he's home by 3:30pm most days). He does camp from time to time in the summer but not so much this time of year.
In this situation, it's an accepted offer, and we didn't want to send up a red flag by dictating when the inspection could occur (we can't anyway, as it's up to buyer). When I heard the 2:30pm time frame I cringed, knowing he'd be arriving home before it was done.
Ugh. Here's hoping it's a non-issue and we can continue moving ahead. It's been a long 4 months and this offer is key. So many other things can go wrong between now and close, we just didn't expect our freaky neighbor to be one of them!
DH did before, and right now we're holding our breath, hoping no harm done to this offer/buyers, and then once we close we will never have to deal with him again.
If, and hopefully not, we find out his display yesterday caused these buyers (set # 2) to change their mind, then we will have to escalate somehow. Obviously reasonable discussion doesn't help as he did not hold up his end of the agreement we'd arrived at after incident # 1.
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Everyone welcome.
Yes- the day before Thanksgiving- and we would be SO thankful after all of this!
I would love to- but honestly at this point it would do us more harm than good. We are extremely hopeful that it's a non-issue with the buyers, at which point we'd choose to be done with him. He's not worth our energy.
We've already decided that if this proceeds to closing (please!) we are going to park ourselves across the street during the final walkthrough and make sure he doesn't do anything (if he's not at work).
If there are any more issues, don't threaten a restraining order. FILE ONE. He doesn't need previous notice. You've done your part to be civil and it needs to stop.
If he goes "batshitcrazy", call the police. He'll be in violation, get his a$$ handed to him and think twice next time.