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74 Kids? Sperm Donor Show on Style Network
Has anyone watched the show they did on the Style Network about the guy that donated sperm for 3 years? I have it DVRed and have only watched the first 10 minutes.
Evidently he was a sperm donor during his years in law school. He has been trying to find out how many kids he has now from a donor registration site. He is also getting married and his wife is becoming a little freaked out (he did tell her on their 3 date that he was a sperm donor) at the thought that she might have kids with him someday and they could potentally have 100+ siblings.
I think sperm banks can be the answer to many people's prayers when wanting a child. How would you feel if you found out your husband was a sperm donor and your child would have that many half siblings?
Just curious 
Re: 74 Kids? Sperm Donor Show on Style Network
Though those kids will have shared DNA I wouldn't consider them "siblings" in any way that truly counted.
I'm not sure why his wife would be freaked over it. He gave a wonderful gift to couples/women that couldn't do it for themselves.
It's not like he had (70+) children and gave them up and is now looking for them to be part of his life with her.
As the wife, I could see some concerns though not necessarily deal breakers.
Like the rare chance that my child would someone meet and start a relationship with one of the donor children. (I saw another show on donor registries and this was one of the topics discussed)
Or, that one day, these donor children would start looking for their donor and want a relationship with him and/or help from him and the effect that could have on their family. If you've got 100 "kids" out there and they all start coming back, could be a lot to deal with.
I think there are a lot of "what ifs" that could go through the wife's head and they are all justified concerns.
Exactly
I haven't watched it all the way through so I am not sure how it ends up but I think it shows the kids wanting to reach out to him and the wife is trying to set boundries.
I agree that he gave a wonderful gift to many many families and he actually stated he did so b/c someone in his family was dealing with infertility.
I personally, would be a little more accepting of the situation if my husband to be had remained anonymous. I guess I would always know in the back of my mind he had done this but it would eliminate the chance that they would try and find him.
I never really thought about the chance that his future kids would run into his donor kids. That would be crazy...I guess there is a chance if they lived in a small town?
He didn't sleep around, he donated sperm. Very big difference. I dont think this is a deal breaker.
And like PP stated, they wouldnt really be classified as "siblings" in my book, just because they share the same DNA
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I watched it and I can see the fiance's concerns.
For those of you whom haven't watched it. He has registered on a website, basically giving the children and/or parents of the children his sperm was used to create access to him. He met 2 of the kids on the show and afterwards they showed the mom saying how concerned she was about her kids if he really didn't want to be in the kids lives now that he has met them. Not necessarily in a dad role but just in contact with them.
He did look like he might have a problem emotional detaching himself, even though he assured his fiance that he would not.
I think that if he had remained anonymous and not put himself out there for the kids and parents to find that his fiance wouldn't be as concerned.
I'm still not sure I understand her concern. He's not looking to legally adopt all of these children. I'm not sure he could if he wanted to. She's worried that he might be in their lives?
And I haven't watched this so I might be missing something really big. Who am i kidding. I'm never going to see this so I'll trust what's put out here. Just not understand it.
Umm...hmm...how to explain it...
Imagine your husband having 70 but possibly up to 120 or more biological offspring and in the years to come them wanting to not only find him but possibly have him be apart of their lives. You can also see that your dh has the potential to become emotional attached to these children, especially the way he has opened himself up to be easily found and contacted on the internet.
I don't know if that explained it any better or not.