Rhode Island Nesties
MrsT0514
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Dear Community,
Our tech team has launched updates to The Nest today. As a result of these updates, members of the Nest Community will need to change their password in order to continue participating in the community. In addition, The Nest community member's avatars will be replaced with generic default avatars. If you wish to revert to your original avatar, you will need to re-upload it via The Nest.
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Note: This only affects The Nest's community members and will not affect members on The Bump or The Knot.
Our tech team has launched updates to The Nest today. As a result of these updates, members of the Nest Community will need to change their password in order to continue participating in the community. In addition, The Nest community member's avatars will be replaced with generic default avatars. If you wish to revert to your original avatar, you will need to re-upload it via The Nest.
If you have questions about this, please email help@theknot.com.
Thank you.
Note: This only affects The Nest's community members and will not affect members on The Bump or The Knot.
new to the boards
Hey everyone- I'm a newbie here on the boards...I've been a member of the knot/the nest for a while now, but this is my first time actually posting. I'm recently married (this past May), DH & I moved here to RI about 2 1/2 years ago. Both in our mid-20's, not planning for kids yet (maybe another 2 years or so). I'd say I'm definitely having some trouble making new girlfriends for myself & couple friends for both DH & I to hang with. I have only a few girlfriends I've kept in touch with, 2 of which live at least an hour away, so I don't get to see them much. I've made a few newer girlfriends locally, but they are either at a different point in life than myself (i.e. already have children or have conflicting schedules) or are already very much involved with their existing group of girlfriends. Most of DH's friends are single. A few who are married are either having children & hanging with other parent friends alot, or their wives & I just haven't "clicked" as anything more than good acquaintances (due to either different personalities or different interests). The tricky part is that DH is very comfortable in his group of buddies (he's known most of them since he was young), and he's not very good with making the effort to get to know new people. I'm working on trying to get him to be a little more "socially adventurous" you could say, but I'm definitely open for suggestions. I'd hate to drag him into meeting people & make him feel awkward, but at the same time, it'd definitely be nice to not always be the only female in the group just hanging with the guys (I've been "one of the guys" most of my life! haha) Any ideas on how to meet new couple friends without looking desperate?? LOL.
Re: new to the boards
We moved here from the midwest in March and it is *hard* to make friends. People are very nice here, but guarded and already have their own groups of friends and it's hard to get into the group.
This sounds pathetic, but if anyone ever wants to hang out, message me. My girls are 2 and 3, but we can do whatever.
Welcome to the board, and congrats on getting married!
It's really hard to make friends here. I'm originally from here, moved away for college and then back again - and I'm at a different point in my life than my local friends. When DH and I were just a couple before DS, we were terrible at making new friends. We're also really shy, so it's a serious effort for us to try to reach out and meet new people. And, honestly, it didn't happen until we had DS and I spent my maternity leave on a search for new friends!
The couples we did meet before having a baby were from meeting people at work. I always said I wished there was a match.com type thing for couples to meet other couples!
If you're open to having kids in the sort of near future, would you mind being friends with other people with kids? I know sometimes it makes scheduling hard, but just because we have kids doesn't mean we aren't looking for new girl friends
Maybe it's time to organize a nestie GTG.
First of all, welcome to RI and to the board!
I am in MA now, but still have lots of ties to RI. When we moved here, we initially met friends at our church. We are both involved with music ministry so our first friends were other musicians and singers at church. We introduced ourselves to our neighbors and given the dynamic of our neighborhood, we became very friendly with them as well. We both grew up in RI and met most of our close friends (other than classmates) through our volunteering at a local camp.
As for other opportunities to meet people in RI, you could try volunteering. This website lists all kinds of volunteer opportunities throughout the state. http://www.serverhodeisland.org/tabid/36/default.aspx
Now that we have children, I have met other parents in my community at sports classes and storytime. Others have been introduced through friends.
Depending on day and time, I'd be up for a GTG
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Hi! Congratulations on your recent wedding! And welcome to the board. Making new friends is so hard, I definitely understand - and it's doubly hard when you're trying to make friends as a couple! I don't really have any advice, I'm from here and know the people I hang out with from a million years ago. (although since having kids I feel like we're out-of-the-loop, so I guess this happens at every stage of life!)
Best of luck with expanding your social circle! If there is a GTG, let me know!
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Hi again ladies...sorry it's taken so long to respond. I posted this and then got completely lost/sidetracked, but I finally dug it up again! Thanks to all who've responded with comments/suggestions. As as few PP's have already said, it really does seem like everyone here in RI is so nice, but most people already have a "set" group of friends (for a lack of a better way of saying it!). It's hard to make my way into a group of chicks who are already close and sort of content with the group as is, get what I mean? It's been getting easier (slowly! we've been here in RI for almost 3 years now). But still slow going.
Amy- I'm definitely not against meeting people with children! DH & I are planning to have kids in probably about a year or so, but for now its just us and our pets.
I think a nestie GTG is a great idea! Any suggestions??