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OMG - Who am I marrying???
So FI and I were watching a Daily Show rerun last night (from Tues.), and I was saying how I really liked the guest (blanking on the name right now) because it was obvious he was passionate about his ideas, but wasn't BSC.
We get on to the topic of global warming, when FI tells me, "Well, I think global warming is ::drumroll please:: PROBABLY real."
What the.....?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!!!?!?
I love FI, but how in the world did we get to this point in our relationship w/o me knowing that he only thinks global warming is "probably" true?!?!? I can understand that some people dispute whether or not it's man-made (I firmly fall into the man-made camp), but are there a lot of rational, scientific-minded types who aren't sure it even exists?
He later backpedalled and tried to say it was because he personally hadn't seen any data to support the existence of global warming because he wasn't interested in it (in itself an issue, for me), but.....
::shakes head again in disbelief::
p.s. To be fair, I found him this morning before work looking up info online about it.
Re: OMG - Who am I marrying???
At least he's trying to become better informed! You should ask him about his research tonight.
Hehe.... I had a moment like that a few months ago when DH told me he only supports first trimester abortions because "a woman forfeits her right to have one if she waits too long."
Luckily, I was able to use logic and reason with him and now he's firmly on my side. At least that's what he tells me.
Elizabeth,
FI and I have definitely had that discussion as well. Actually, at this point I'd say he's just as pro-choice as I am, even if he doesn't fully understand all of the nuances. Every time something new comes up, though, we discuss it and gradually he's becoming more informed.
It's also really nifty to hear that he's been sharing the links I send him from places like the CRR with data on repro rights to his more conservative friends when they have a disagreement. Makes me feel all warm and fuzzy inside.
Ditto.
And even though I have known this about him since we started dating (in 2000, so we had lots of election year type debates early in our relationship) I still had a "OMG, how could I have married you" moment the day we went to early vote.
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Yikes!!
I'm betting it's just one of the issues he hasn't thought about a whole lot. Plain and simple. Now that he's looking into it and you've discussed it, he'll probably totally agree with you!
Ladybug, I've had so many of those moments that I can't even bother being shocked anymore when we discuss politics. I just sort of accept that he's going to say things that, in my book, are off the charts. Fortunately he's a good man and good father, so he has some redeeming qualities.
Global warming is among the few public policy matters on which my DH and I do agree. And arguing about policy is better than arguing about the dishes, right?
That is funny. ?it reminds me of the largest fights H and I have had. ?There were 2, and they resurface every now and again.
One was on the scientific method (he says you test theories; I say you test hypotheses. ?He's so wrong), and the other was on white and male privilege, based on that 50 item list for white privilege which was then adapted for male privilege. ?He doesn't think anything psychological is a privilege which is hugely out of character for him. ?It wouldn't have been as big a fight if he'd articulated that sometime in the first hour of the discussion instead of just saying that all these things weren't privileges as I read them to him (I was innocently just trying to have a discussion).
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