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churchs and tampons
Just heard of it again recently. Some pious busy body bored middle aged women in a local church. Have been sneaking around and handing out pamphlets and having pep talks. In the name of the Lord with intimidated teen and pre-teen gilrs . That using tampons is evil as the girls are no longer pure and virgin with "anything "up there".
I'd like to catch even one of the scare mongers in the act.
Just what exactly is going on when there are serious issues in the world and society. That people take on a easy "safe" non issue in order to feel they are doing their part to make the world a better place?
Anybody else heard of or been exposed to this stuff first hand?
Re: churchs and tampons
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I have heard of this it is ridiculous! I grew up in a small town and a lot of the girls were very religious (I am not and my mom used tampons too), they didn't even know about their bodies, it was sad.
Once a few of the girls in my class approached me and asked if I had a pad (we were in middle school) and I said I didn't but I had tampons and they said they didn't use them. And then they asked me how do you go pee with a tampon in? I was dumbfounded!
How does a girl know so little about her own parts? I didn't even realize this had to be taught. I was much younger than getting my period when I figured out on my own what was going on down there. And not to be creepy, but did none of them have younger siblings whose diapers they changed? That teaches anatomy so quickly.
I was ten when I got my period and my family is pretty liberal so when we had questions about anything dealing with sex and menstruation or our bodies we just asked and were given information. I am the baby and the only girl, but I just asked or researched things myself if need be.
It amazed me too and I was only 13, but I just didn't understand it! The majority of them have younger siblings. It has a lot to do with not learning any sex ed and only having one maturation class (in fourth grade was the only one)! We had a maturation meeting I guess is the best way to put it, where the school nurse talked to us about periods and gave us some pads and a little calendar, and a little pamphlet about menstruating. They didn't talk about sex, or even about the vagina, or anything. I remember because I asked about tampons and they changed the subject, it was ridiculous.
Then freshman year in high school, in the small town I grew up in, you only take a semester of health and they don't teach anything about sex or penis, vagina, nothing. They basically skip it all. Nothing about birth control or how women get pregnant. I did research myself and also asked my parents.
I remember a girl in my brothers class when they were juniors had to ask what menstruation was! She didn't know what it was or how it worked.
I went to a catholic highschool and gradeschool they didnt teach us anything sex related. The priest would tell us hugging was a sin. He also ended up hanging himself for hurting boys. that didnt come out till years later.
I remember being in 8th grade and got my period at a water park and a mom that i had never met before had to help me understand what the hell i was doing. It was slightly embarrassing but thank you for moms all around!
I've been asking this question for years. I'm SO tired of everyone making stupid, trivial things into big deals when people have actual problems, especially when they target young girls and make every trivial thing they do seem bad/sinful/sexual.
That sounds like a very old school Catholic thing to me.
There were some very weird things that went on in Catholic schools before Vatican II. No white shirts (they make the boys sin) and no patent leather shoes (they reflect up) and sh!t even weirder than that.
That's so weird! Almost all of the Christian churches I've been to had tampons in bathroom and taught that sex outside of marriage was a sin, not using a tampon!
I think that keeping the hymen intact to be considered a virgin is dumb, so many sports can break it. Horseback riding broke mine and it's not like it made me unpure. lol
Evidently these girls never had a science class where anatomy and physiology of the organs was taught.
Exactly!
I know this is sort of an old post, but I grew up in an EXTREMELY strict Independent Baptist church.
The woman's body, especially the goods, is compared to a well in the Bible somewhere. It is taught that well is for one thing and one thing only... her husband's "waters." Your vagina belongs to 2 people... and neither of them are you. As with everything thing else about you, your ladybits are designed to please God by only pleasing your husband.
hang on... Im going somewhere with this...
That church also taught that Eve was cursed in the Garden with her period. So, its sort of a punishment (not the wonderful nutrients that sustain life, however unpleasant that may be when its no longer needed)
So that leads to an extreme view of modesty about your body and the period is a shameful, quiet thing almost. It was never said, but I always picked up the sense that "good girls" dont wear tampons because that would mean they need to hide their periods when they are naked or wear tight, revealing clothes. And another thing, to put in a tampon means spreading your legs, touching yourself, and putting something inside something else that isnt yours.
Im not making a blanket statement about Christianity, Baptists, or anything else. I was just trying to convey what I noticed in that 1 specific church.
from a tampon wearing, sex-enjoying, no longer religious, pregnant chick.
Sorry I wasn't clear but I want everybody to understand. I do believe that good churches that teach scriptural truths and the congregation that follow them. Is a good thing and a benefit to the believers, their friends, families and community.
It's just that sometimes, some people like these anti tampon ladies. Somehow they get off on a tangent and inadvertently do more harm than good.
It has nothing to do with Catholicism. As a life-long practicing Catholic, and daughter of a life-long practicing Catholic, this has never been an issue. Nor has the Catholic Church had any stance on such a ridiculous issue.
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Thank you for defending Catholicism!
I spent my entire K-12 years in Catholic schools, all of my time in college in Campus ministry and living with other Catholic women, and the majority of my last few summers with some of the most conservative Catholics I've ever met. I have never, not even once, heard of such a Church teaching! Not even as a pre-Vatican 2 teaching! (And truthfully, did tampons even exist then?)
I guess what I mean is this --> just because its a conservative-type religious teaching doesn't mean ppl should automatically jump to the conclusion it stems from Catholicism. There are MANY other conservative religions.