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New pet-owners...affect "alone time"?
We live in a smaller apartment, and when we are home our new dog likes to be RIGHT by us no matter where we are in the apartment. He does not like being confined, and loves jumping up onto our bed (which we don't normally mind)...
BUT when it comes to our "alone time" I'm not sure how to get that with our poor pup following us around? Just work on getting him to be comfortable shut in another room? I don't want him whining RIGHT outside the door...that's not romantic!
Any tips? thanks!
Re: New pet-owners...affect "alone time"?
I am also a pet owner in an apartment. With the alone time issue aside I definitely think it's important to set boundaries and discipline with your new pup. My little guy used to have the run of the place but it was causing all other sorts of behavioral issues. Now, I have a special blanket for him on the floor and he knows he is supposed to be on the blanket unless I say otherwise. It works great! To start the training I would say "get on your blanket!" and then make him lay down on it and give him a treat EVERY time. I always had them ready on the counter. Then I always make sure to have a chew toy on the blanket for him too. It's all business and he knows that's where I expect him to be. It's extra work to keep him on the blanket when we leave the room, but I am very consistent and always correct his action when he gets off the blanket to follow us.
I think something like this would be great for your puppy and for y'all to have your alone time. You can snuggle on the couch while he stays on his blanket and he should learn to be content on it even when you're in the bedroom
I'm a little more blunt with my two shelties...I just shut the door in their face, and say keep it down! They usually lay right outside the door, because I can see their fur sticking out from under the doorway. After "alone time" is over we let them back in and they give us this disgusted look like "we know what you did", and "there better not be another baby after that"...
We experimented once with letting them stay in the room, while we just fooled around...I ended up in urgent care with a cut on my cornea from the dog trying to get my husband, and landing on my face.
But I tend to agree, if its a young dog training will go wonders for you and they'll just know.
I have 2 big dogs and they initially stayed in the bathroom at night (it worked for us) so that's how we got "alone time." Once they were bigger and in the room, i think they each had an incident of staring at us like WHAT is going on?!? and poking their heads up once. After that, we would kick them off the bed (they usually come on the bed only in the morning anyway) and they went to their beds and we had no response from them whatsoever. It was actually funny when they did "look" because we were totally surprised as well. But we never had a problem again.
THIS!
We just tell our boys to get out, sometimes my DH will have to chase them out! Which is really funny to watch but not really all that sexy looking!
They sleep in bed with us every night so they only leave if we force them out
One of our dogs will wait with his nose under the door until we are done- such a creeper!
Time to start training your dog not to jump-up on the bed during sex.
Start by either simulating sex, (or just go all the way - your call) and whenever the dog starts trying to get in the middle of things, push him away and sternly say "Down." or whatever you normally use. Keep doing this. You need to be stronger-willed than the dog, which can be quite the challenge. Eventually he'll get the message that you don't want him up there and will give-up. Make sure he sits quietly, or chews a toy or something. Don't let him bark or whine. Be strong. Once he's been waiting quietly for a while, praise him greatly. Go back to doing normal stuff, and the next night do the same thing again. The dog will catch on, just keep at it.