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Frustrating Drama (vent)
MIL had a mental break down about a month ago and no one knows what exactly happened but she believes she was attacked at 630 in the evening while SIL was down stairs. No one believes there was an attack because there was no proof and SIL never saw anyone else in the house. It also doesnt help that she has been saying there is an evil spirit in her room and throws hissy fits because she wants a new house.
Now that y'all have a back story, here is what is currently going on. She packed up some clothes hid FIL keys to his company truck and left. She is now staying in a motel up the street and basically moved out because she says the house no longer hers. I am aware that my MIL needs some psychiatric help and from my understanding she is trying to find help.
It gets better 
. FIL works in an oil field out in New Mexico 7 on and 7 off, with 2 teens at home and a wife who refuses to stay in the house or have her kids go stay with her. I'm the only relative in the same city and happen to be currently unemployed.... I HATE teenagers, especially spoiled ones. I didn't even like teens when I was one. They don't clean up after themselves, the house smells like cat pee, and the AC just froze over so its ridiculously hot. I have just become a full time live in housekeeper because MIL is nuts...
Re: Frustrating Drama (vent)
Just because you are unemployed and related (by marriage) to the teens doesn't mean it's your responsibility to take over as guardian. They are not your children, and not your responsibility. You can refuse to help out.
I'm going to be blunt: for you this is an inconvenience, but for them this is their family falling apart. How would you have reacted at that age if your mom had a mental breakdown, refused to live in the house/let you see her, and your dad was never around? Teens want freedom but need stability--these kids don't have the latter at the moment unless you step in and take on some responsibility for a short time. They may be bratty, but they're kids in a crisis situation--they're acting out on their feelings because there aren't any adults around to help them process what's happening to them.
Your FIL needs to take some time off work to get a handle on his home life. Talk to him about this. The kids need to get into some kind of therapy (preferably with dad) to work through what's happening and how they're reacting to it. Mom needs serious psychiatric help, but that's going to be tough to get if she won't commit herself.
Do you have to help? No. Should you help? Unquestionably. I know I wouldn't be able to live with myself if I refused to step in and do what I could for nearby family members who needed what I had to offer.
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My dad left when I was 9 and my mom was in and out of hospitals for depression. My brother stepped up for a short time till he joined the air force then my other brother and I had to take care or ourselves till we moved in with our grandparents. None of us were as spoiled as the 2 teens Im watching, they dont know how to clean up after themselves, they are disrespectful (even calling me a *** to my face and telling their mom lies about how I treat them), the 15 year old never even learned how to tie his shoes till I showed him a few days ago. I've talked to FIL about what's going on and he understands why Im so frustrated with his kids because they don't listen to him or MIL. There is a reason MIL doesn't want the kids staying with her and its because they are out of control. They could care less if she refuses to come home, they are only upset with her because she wont put up with their BS anymore... They are that bad.
I only posted because I'm frustrated with the situation and the timing. I appreciate the feed back, and dont want y'all to think I'm the type of person who would refuse to help someone when I can, especially when its family. I'm just having a hard time handling them... Im only 23 and I'm not a parent, I was the youngest out of 3... Being responsible for 2 spoiled teens is not a strong suit for me.
To me it just sounds like you were coming on here to figure out a way out. I know the situation might be shitty right now but they really need you. Just be the bigger person and keep your head up, they are acting out because they probably feel helpless and unwanted.
In most states, if you are concerned about someone's ability to safely care for themselves or others and this inability is due to a mental illness, then you can get an emergent evaluation for them at a local ER. Not sure how TX works in this regard, but if you call a local hospital, you can be directed to the psychiatrist on call, who can answer this for you. Legally, depending on the ages of her children and their ability to care for themselves (which sounds iffy), this situation may also be referrable to DCF, given that she is not supervising her children.
However... I obviously don't know your MIL, but some of this sounds like it could be purposeful behavior. Hard to tell without knowing the specifics, of course...