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dulcemariamar1
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Can you have it all? ///Vent///
Do you think you can have it all at once? Love, Money, and Health?
Because if you can, I dont know what is wrong with me. A few years ago, I had this great job but I was living in the States while my DH (my BF at the time) was living in Spain. Then, I moved back to Spain and got a job here. But, not long after I got pretty sick. So now I am healthy again, still happily married but without a job. Why cant I have health, money, and love at the same time? WTF!!!
What do you think? Can you have it all? Anybody want to vent with me???
Re: Can you have it all? ///Vent///
My husband has a pretty good saying, its something like "you get everything you want in life but not always at the right times".
When the stars do align, for how ever long it lasts, it is great...but then the earth turns again
Chin up!
I am so getting what you're saying, holy cow, lol. I'll vent along with you! I have the greatest love in the world (next to what y'all have with your men, of course, lol), am the healthiest I've ever been, but my job SUCKS! I don't have weekends, I work 10 hours every day outside, I am significantly undervalued in regards to my paycheck, and I have to work every single holiday except Christmas day. Fcuk that noise!
I love my company but cannot STAND my job any longer. I've started applying to other jobs, but I'm terrified of 'starting over' after my commitment to this company. It's so much easier to complain, lol.
I think, Lady, that you can have it all. I totally think it's possible. You create the possibilities in your life that get you where you want to go...but sometimes, it's so dang exhausting. A lot of it is a state of mind, I think, so...is it possible? Yes. Do we sometimes just want it to happen? Of course. Can we make it happen? Most definitely. Don't give up
Definitely seems you can't have it all at the same time. WITW is also onto something re making it happen though I feel like sometimes the more you think about it & despair, the least likely it is to happen.
In general, the really good things in my life happened unexpectedly, when I was actually not looking for them nor really craving them, kwim?
Thanks!!! I really need those kind words today. I am like totally freaking out. It is just so frustrating. Between the 20% unemployment and the shady job offers, I just seem like I cant catch a break.
Yeah, most days I try not to think too much about it but I thought I was going to get a job today and I didnt.
You see, I was that annoying kid who had their stuff together at 22-24. While all my peers were "like struggling" things worked out for me out of combination of hard work and luck. Now that I am approaching 30, I feel like everyone is improving and I am just falling behind. I know I shouldnt compare but I still do.
I'm about to move back to Europe in more ideal circumstances than when I was working at a job I hated in Madrid, with a boyfriend (now DH) who couldn't get a visa until we married and with this big question mark hanging over my head about what I wanted to "be when I grew up."
And now that things seem pretty awesome, I just started having weird health issues that I thought were related to stress but are actually real. I might have to have surgery before we move.
So, I hear you, Dulce. I hooe your salud, amor y dinero (y tiempo para disfrutarlos)come together at the same time for you soon.
ETA: "hooe" was supposed to be "hope." oops!
I'm right there with you. I have the love of my life, I'm finally getting healthy and in shape, and I have a job that I dread going to in the mornings. On top of that, still dealing with feelings of "where are we going after the NL" and "what do I want to be when I grow up."
Basically...too many questions, not enough answers.
I was that kid (well kinda), but then I switched it up. Left a "good" job to go back to school and then, wait for it, start over at... a 50% pay cut (I turned 30 2wks before I started that job). It's been 5yrs and things have righted themselves.
To me, it's all a cosmic trade-off. I think it's possible to have all three (I guess I do now, at a newly minted 35
), but it's all a trade-off. I love my job, it's really the job I've always wanted...but it takes too much time from my family (who I love too and feel like a jerk for "abandoning" for work). We don't have mad money, but we're good/normally comfortable. Can't afford limitless shoes and vacations, but we've got steady jobs, can pay our bills, and have a little disposable left over for mid-level indulgences (weekend trips or nice wine or something like that). However, the work and house obligations often mean that we don't necessarily have the time to spend it on such fun stuff.
Again, please don't misunderstand-- I'm so lucky to have H (and our dog), a good job that I enjoy, and a couple bucks in the bank. So I'm in no way complaining. But yeah, I no way have the time I wish I could have to kind of free-spirit travel, go to school just for the sake of learning, etc. If I "quit"/dropped out of my job and had the time to pursue those interests, we'd no way have the money. As far as love and health-- I can't rationalize those-- pure gifts/grace/luck and I'm thankful for both and try to remind myself of that everyday.