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Baby Talk

DH and I have been married a little over 4 months now and as Im sure most of you did, we're constantly being asked when we're going to have a baby. DH usually responds with "never". When we shop for our nieces & nephews he's in and out and refuses to look at baby clothes when I comment on them. I know he wants kids, but he was making me a bit nervous.

So yesterday we're in some sports store and he sees a Red Sox baby robe and comments on how he wanted it, and I replied with my usual "Over my dead body" and somehow that sparked an honest to God baby talk. He told me he avoids the baby sections because he's got the daddy itch really bad but wants me to finish school first so instead he tries to keep quiet so I dont get the mommy itch any worse than I already have it. I have 2.5 yrs left :(

We talked about concerns that we'll be close to 28 when we start trying (not too old I know, but we both hoped for kids prior to being 30) and how it took my mom 4 yrs of trying and the concerns of miscarriage and what if we cant even have one, etc. Then we talked baby names (which we often do for fun anyways) but the men in his family are all only boys with multiple sisters, so we talked about his desire to have a boy to carry on his last name and talked (for the first time ever) about boy names and how many tries we were willing to make for a boy.

All in all it was an amazing talk that was very much needed for me. I know I have another 2 yrs before we're willing to try, but I'm so excited!


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Re: Baby Talk

  • We had the talk seriously recently. I would love a baby now and we financially are ready but we live so far from any family we need to wait I think. Sad part is, I almost don't see us moving back to NY...hard to picture moving away now that I love the area so much. But my heart misses NY terribly, too. It's hard.
  • We're financially ready now too which is great, but Im the opposite with location. Were in E Syr with my parents & his mom 10 min away and his dad about 5. But Ive sworn that after I graduate and we've had our house for 5 years (in another 3 yrs), I want to look outside NY, maybe Mass, Vermont, Conn. My mom whines that Ill have her first grandchild away from her and Ill want the help...I just want out of NY. I love everything Syracuse sports, I love the pride we have...thats about it.

    People are inherently stupid. Weddings make it painfully obvious -- KevinandMonica
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  • It's hard. Ideally we would be having our first baby three years from now. I've had break downs with DH where I've told him I fear it will be too late, etc. I'm 31 now. I have to convince myself it will be fine. Financially we will be in a great place in three years. We don't want to really change our lifestyle so if we wait we won't have to.
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  • Bridgett!! I'm so glad you were able to have such an honest and open talk w/ Josh.  Smile  I'm excited for you to start trying whenever you are ready

    We are trying again... and tbh, I am more scared now than I was before.  Fx for all of us that it will happen when the time is right.

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