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charting question...
I signed onto fertility friend last night, and I've just started taking temps this morning (AF was on the 21st, and my cycles are 36 days long so my chart isn't going to be too exciting this month). We're not TTC #2 until Wyatt is at least a full year old, but I want to understand my cycles now to make it easier then... but I have a problem.
Everywhere I read that to temp properly you need at least a full 4 hours sleep, which I haven't gotten in months. I generally go to bed anywhere from 10pm-midnight (I need to make it consistent, I know), Wyatt usually goes to bed at 8:30pm and gets up at 1am, 4am, 6am and then gets up for the day around 7am.
When should I be taking my temp? I figured 4 is too early, but at least that way I'm getting more sleep than at 6?
I temped at 4am this morning and was at 35.4 C (95.9 F), and then at 6 I was at 34.8 C (94.6 F). I don't know which to use.
Re: charting question...
Jenny McCarthy = Former Playmate and MTV host
Pediatrician = Doctor with extensive experience and education on children.
Bumpies = Don't get me started!
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What are you looking at?
There is a novel idea... I wish I wish I wish lol
I see no reason you can't alternate. Wyatt is at an age that he doesn't need to eat that often, so there is no reason Lance can't take one of the wake-ups. Or you can just let him cry himself back to sleep at one of them.
There's that too!
Jenny McCarthy = Former Playmate and MTV host
Pediatrician = Doctor with extensive experience and education on children.
Bumpies = Don't get me started!
I know who I get my health advice from!
What are you looking at?
Lance has to get up for work at 5:30am, so we've pretty much agreed (to stop the fighting) that he can STTN as long as on his days off he gets up for Wyatt in the morning so that I can sleep in (except for when Lance is being b!tchy and refuses to get up).. one morning last time I slept in until noon and I had no idea until I woke up how late it was lol
I've also told Lance that starting Wednesday night when Lance goes off shift, I will get up to comfort Wyatt at the 1am waking, but he's on his own to CIO for the rest of the night. Probably won't be a fun few nights, but I'm so done getting up 3-4 times at night. Lance doesn't like the idea, because 'no one is going to get any sleep'... but he's going to have to deal. I'm sick of dealing with 2 babies at night.
I agree. I also agree with the CIO ideas. Are you feeding him at every wake up? (I'm assuming bf?) Anders went through a phase at about 1 where he woke up twice a night (really unsusal for him) and he was starving. We upped his dinner intake and added 2 more oz to his "bedtime" bottle-which solved the sleeping issue...Basically, is he hungry or just wanting to snuggle? Those little internal clocks are a killer...
Is he napping? Maybe try keeping him up from 6am on and putting him down an hour later for a nap/quiet time. Anders gets up at 7:30, eats breakfast, plays and then goes down for a "siesta" around 8:30. He gets to spend at least an hour in his crib-sometimes he naps, other times he just relaxes and babbles. He is 100 times happier on the days he gets a full hour or more of siesta time and it gives me shower time.
Also, I get that Lance gets up early, but it's time for him to get his booty out of bed too. Sean goes to bed at 11 and gets up at 4 (he works 5-4:30 and then 6:30-11 for studying at the house) and it is expected that if A wakes up he's there to help or take one of the wakeups. Sorry, but I think it's time to enlist some help from Lance and then maybe he will be more on board with CIO. And yes, CIO is not fun, but at some point it needs to be done.
Thanks for the advice
Wyatt's schedule is usually this: he gets up at 7 am and stays up until about 9 - 9:30 am, has an hour long nap and goes down again around 1 pm, and then again at around 5 pm (afternoon naps are rarely more than a half hour).
At night he likes to nurse but it is usually just for comfort, not for a meal. Last night at the 4am I went to him, laid him back down, gave him his soother and rubbed his back for a moment. It took him about 10 minutes to CIO, but after that he didn't wake up until 7 am.
I completely agree with you all about Lance needing to start getting up, and I really do wish it were open for discussion. To be perfectly honest I would rather fight with Wyatt to get him to sleep better than to fight with Lance about getting up. We're just starting to seriously heal and recover from all the house drama, and I know the moment I bring it up it is going to spark another fight, which I really don't want right now. He gets up in the middle of the night when he's off shift, and he lets me sleep in on those days too, so for now I'm happy with that. We just have to really work with Wyatt to STTN.