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Advice or Ideas
Hello!
Complete newbie here. My husband and I are heading to the Caribbean for our 10 year anniversary. I am looking for ideas to spice up our sex life and ideas to completely surprise him. We have a vibrator and yes I will be packing it but are there any oils or lotions that you would recommend. Any other toys?
I have never worn lingerie and I am not sure I could... Would not even know what to buy....
Overall we have a great marriage and a healthy sex life just looking add more fun and excitement.
Thoughts or ideas?
Thanks!
Re: Advice or Ideas
If you are comfortable with it, I just took my DH to a strip club for is 30th birthday! I thought it would be sexy for him, a bit silly for me, but I was completely wrong! It was one of the most sensual experiences of my life! We got a lap dance together (TWICE!!!!) and it was such a turn on to have this live person for our viewing pleasure as my husband and I fondled each other!
I didn't know anything about strip clubs, I didn't know what was entailed in these sort of things, but where we went, you were allowed a lot of touching, so my DH was grabbing her breasts and butt, she was grinding her crotch on his, point being... It was VERY explicit, so if you are not comfortable with that, don't buy a lap dance! Still, out on the main floor was a lot of fun too!
If that is too out there, public sex, couples massage, nude beaches, sex in the ocean in front of a crowded beach could be options worth thinking about! Personally, and I think many men would agree, that lingerie is over rated, and sexier for the women than the men! Good luck with everything! And Congratulations on your anniversary! HAVE A GREAT TIME ON YOUR TIP! I love the Caribbean!
I have seen the moment of my greatness flicker
We are going Oct. 8-15th. We are going to St. Lucia. Our first trip there. Our honeymoon, we went to Aruba. Yes, we love the Caribbean also! We've been to San Juan, PR; Nassau, St. Martin, St. Thomas, Dominica, St. John's and Barbados. Also went to Grand Caymen and Cozumel on a cruise years ago.
Not trying to advertise at all here but I sell Pure Romance and we have a ton of different things, massage products, arousal creams and toys. there are so many different toys I would say having a vibrator is only the beginning. I like pp suggestions as well.
My husband loves when I wear a little lacy number, just for fun. I only have 3 and he's seen each of them multiple times, but it still is a great way to add a bit of excitement before he rips them off!!
I also agree with the other poster about public sex, nude beach, etc - those kinds of things can be really exciting and while they aren't something you might ever do at home, you're so far away and it's like a fantasy land!
Congratulations on your 10th anniversary!!
How about this: Look him deep in the eyes and say: "For the next hour, I'm all yours. Whatever you want to do to me. I'm your sex-slave." The next night, you switch roles. Just make sure to agree on a 'safe-word' beforehand.
As far as what to wear, I've always been a big fan of bustiers. Fairly easy to find and wear, and are usually flattering to most figures. Or see if a corset works for you. Also, if you don't normally wear them, a thong or a g-string is usually appreciated by many husbands.
Aside from that, there's a whole world of sexual kinks to try-out. You could bring some nice soft rope or some handcuffs, but that can be a bit advanced. Usually it isn't good to surprise someone with kinky stuff, but if they've been hinting at it for 10 years you're totally safe. In which case you probably wouldn't be asking strangers on the internet about it.