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Need some advice...
Ok, I had a whole story typed out but it was too much.
Here's the cliff notes.
We have some friends that have 2 kids. They are business partners with DH.
I basically think their son is austic. He is 11 and never been diagnosed.
Do I talk to them about it? Mom is a teacher. Kid is in private school and diagnosing him won't really do much for him because he functions well other than putting a label on him. No one wants their kid labeled. It could help in the future though....
What to do??? Would you want to know?
I mean at least I have some validity in saying it right because I have a master's in SPED? I don't know...
PCOS and Endo
Ovarian drilling and endo removed 1/3/12
BFP - 3/27/12
Beta's 11, 14, 57, 637, 2800
Sono showed no baby and teeny tiny sac. Waiting to M/C naturally.
Re: Need some advice...
you could bring it up - statistically 1 in 110 kids are diagnosed with Autism.
I don't think theres any harm in it - just be careful how you phrase everything - you don't want to insult them ( like " why didn't you pick up on this ? " )
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I'd tip toe around the subject and see if she mentions it. After one attempt at starting the conversation, I'd mind your own business.
She works in education and I'm sure has her own concerns/beliefs/questions about the situation.
How do you know he hasn't seen any specialists?
I say make a mild attempt, but overall mind your own business. You can't save the world.
When I practiced testing on him, I had to do a background information thing where that was one of the questions.
I think you are right though. I kind of feel like if he wasn't being successful in school and struggling it would be a bigger issue but academically he's fine. Socially, he's awkward but they try to keep him involved (dad actually thinks he might be gay oddly enough).
Anyway, part of me thinks deep down they have had suspicions so I'm hoping maybe they'll bring it up.
This is why I hate having the certification to "diagnose" kids. It makes me feel like I have to diagnose them all and be all superwoman.
PCOS and Endo
Ovarian drilling and endo removed 1/3/12
BFP - 3/27/12
Beta's 11, 14, 57, 637, 2800
Sono showed no baby and teeny tiny sac. Waiting to M/C naturally.
My two cents are if they are in denial a casual mention won't be sufficient to grab their attention. If the mom is in education, I find it hard to believe she has not thought of it, which means it is likely something they are having a hard time coming to grip with. I would leave well enough alone if he is doing well academically.
Hopefully she will come to you at some time in the future and you can give her your opinion. I think the label is helpful even if to help him with social skills, which in my mind are more important than academic skills until you reach college.
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Thank you:) SS are definitely super important! You probably understand this situation better than anyone. It's just hard for me to watch him and not say anything. I'm going to hope they mention it eventually and open the doors for me to say something. Thanks
PCOS and Endo
Ovarian drilling and endo removed 1/3/12
BFP - 3/27/12
Beta's 11, 14, 57, 637, 2800
Sono showed no baby and teeny tiny sac. Waiting to M/C naturally.