June 2008 Weddings
nursecheryl81
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How do I politely say no?
Frank told me this evening that his parents asked him if they can come down and visit and stay a month at our house. Frank declined this conversation and told them they have to talk to me..So now I get to have this conversation instead of him.
There is no way that I am allowing them to stay at our house for 1 month!! How do I politely say no and that this is unacceptable?
I feel like 7-10 days is appropriate. NOT 1 MONTH! Who has that much free time and wants to spend that much time away from their house? They just got back from Italy and they were there 1 month. Stay home!!
~Cheryl and Frank~ 06/28/08
TTC since Sept 2009, 2 uterine septum surgeries (Jan and March 2011), 1 chemical pregnancy (4/11), 1 ectopic pregnancy (8/11), and missed m/c at 11w5d (3/12)
Failed IVF #1 (July 2012)
FET #1 October/November 2012 BFP, m/c at 5 3/7
February - operative hysteroscopy
Late April/May FET #2
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TTC since Sept 2009, 2 uterine septum surgeries (Jan and March 2011), 1 chemical pregnancy (4/11), 1 ectopic pregnancy (8/11), and missed m/c at 11w5d (3/12)
Failed IVF #1 (July 2012)
FET #1 October/November 2012 BFP, m/c at 5 3/7
February - operative hysteroscopy
Late April/May FET #2
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Re: How do I politely say no?
HIS parents and this falls to you? Heh heh, that would not fly in casa de dehko. His parents, his conversation.
Other than that...I would just tell them you're going through a personally stressful time right now (very true) and would prefer your privacy. Do not tell them you would prefer not playing hostess, etc., because that opens the door to them saying"Oh, we won't be a bother!"
Gooooood luck!
My first polite decline would be to DH (and it probably wouldn't be that polite....). His parents, his conversation.
Do they know what you guys have been going through? I mean even if you had an amazing relationship with them, I think you're justified wanting to be a little bit selfish and wanting your space to heal and just............be. Without other people to worry about. You know?
Also - haven't they come in the past for epically long visits? I think you (Frank) can just tell them that you'd love to see them but you're just not up to a long visit this year. End of story.
I agree with the others. You don't politely say no, HE does
He also doesn't need to put the reasoning for it on you. He needs to say that you talked together and are not up for a long visit right now.
m/c 7/17/10
Dx: MFI- 3% morph
IUIs: Gonal-F + Ovidrel + b2b IUI= BFNs
IVF with ICSI= BFP! EDD 11/25/11
3/18- Beta #1 452! 3/20- Beta #2 1,026!! 3/27- First u/s- TWINS!
Our twin boys arrived at 36w5d due to IUGR and a growth discordance
Be kinder than necessary, for everyone you meet is fighting some kind of battle.
I am (was, anyway) totally against parents staying with us, but obviously that didn't work out so well.
But, I know people always say this... but you will need help with your babies! I couldn't make it without my mom, and we only had 1! Granted, my Dh was a royal PITA about getting up in the middle of the night to help me (I always thought he would not be a problem, but men will suprise you!)... and both of us were so tired that first month that nothing was cooked or done around the house.
I udnerstand totally about wanting your own space once the baby comes, but you may consider letting her be there some... you'll be suprised how much 2 hours of sleep here and there for weeks breaks you down!
Life of mrsjanks